Romantic love has always felt like one of the very most important parts of my life, and these words by the brilliant Black feminist writer bell hooks explain why.
When angels speak of love they tell us it is only by loving that we enter an earthly paradise. They tell us paradise is our home and love our true destiny… It is the most militant, most radical intervention anyone can make to not only speak of love, but to engage in the practice of love.
Love heals. No matter what has happened in your past, when you open your heart to love, you can live as if born again, not forgetting the past but seeing it in a new way, letting it live inside you in a new way… This is the way healing happens.
Although I have many professional credentials (read more here), including a Ph.D. in Transpersonal Psychology, certification as a Somatica Sex & Intimacy Coach, coach training with Gay and Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving, and teaching thousands of Conscious Girlfriend students worldwide since 2014, my work is also my life, and my life is my work.
I've taught at eight universities, but I've been schooled by loving women. I've been out since 1982, and my intimate relationships have been my deepest source of beauty, heartbreak, challenge, learning and joy on this earth.
It's human to have relationship struggles sometimes.
But in our community, I've seen that there is sometimes way too much challenge and heartbreak. And I want better than that for us. I want better than that for you.
That's why I developed Find True Love Online -- a comprehensive preparation for lesbian dating that is smart for your heart, and lesbian love that is happy for the long haul (not just the U-haul.)
The class asks you to give both your heart and mind to the process of preparing for, looking for, and then creating true love.
Most of us have been harmed by the cultural myth that "When you meet the right person, it will be easy." For most smart, sensitive, complex people, this simply isn't true.
What is true is love is work -- and that the work it requires of us is some of the most worthwhile, rewarding work we can do in our lives.
Chemistry is great, but long-term compatibility requires much more than attraction.
So rather than looking endlessly for that special spark -- and then getting our hopes dashed, over and over again, when the spark flames into a forest fire, or burns into ash -- let's do it differently now. Let's follow lesbian poet Adrienne Rich's invitation: "This time, I choose to love with all my intelligence."
This class will give you the map to your true love.
