Heartwarming Lesbian Love Over 40

Happy, Drama-Free

Lesbian Love Over 40

If you’re a lesbian or queer woman over 40, chances are your love life has had its fair share of ups and downs. You might be wondering if a healthy, drama-free, peaceful partnership is even possible for you.

The good news? It absolutely is. But it's not just about meeting the right partner, it's about getting ready for her in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy. At least, that's what these three lesbian couples over 50 say.

Laura & Quinn

"We have this very calm and peaceful relationship... such a gift!"

Laura spent three years in the Academy honing her relationship skills. Meanwhile, Quinn was building her skill set elsewhere. They met in the Academy, but it wasn't just magic. They were actually ready for each other, so they didn't have to crash and burn.

Now, Quinn says, "... The tools from the Academy provide such a beautiful container for our relationship... it really helps us not only mitigate the bumps, but learn from them, so they're much less likely to happen. We have this very calm and peaceful relationship, which is such a gift in life... We've had so many external stressors, but the container of CGA, and the emotional support of our friends in CGA, have helped this sweet relationship flourish."

Laurie & Jill

"This love is so calm and easy -- I've never experienced anything like it"

"... If we had met before the Academy, it would never have worked. I would never even have approached Jill -- and if I had, she would probably have run away! Now we share a love that is so calm and easy. We love the same way. We don't even have conflict. I've never experienced anything like this." -- Laurie

"I was always getting drained, over-giving to people who didn't give the same amount back. In this relationship, we both look out for and take care of each other." -- Jill

"Before the Academy, I thought 'relationship' and 'ease' were oxymorons. But we really do have ease."

Pierce & Laura

Pierce says, "We met on Silver Singles (I had never thought I would do online dating, but the Academy gave me the courage to try!) and communicated for a couple of months via text, email and video chats. The first time we met, we talked about relationship vision in depth. Although we had chemistry, we didn't do anything romantic on that first meeting.

I had already made plans to be in Mexico for two months. During that time, Laura took the Academy attachment class, while I took other classes. We visited several times a week on video and shared what we were learning. One of the classes that had a big impact on me, which I shared with Laura, was Creating a Relationship as Unique as You Are.

I knew I wanted a Conscious Girlfriend relationship, but I also knew I wasn't a complete CATCH yet. I was working on remedying that! Laura had also been working on herself for a long time, and was calling in that type of relationship.

The Academy Membership, Where Pierce Found The "Creating A Relationship As Unique As You Are" Class

I'd say the factors that have made our relationship work are:

We are both willing to take responsibility for our own feelings, and the life we choose to create. Discussing relationship vision from the beginning. Being aware of limerence before we even got into it, staying in it for a year (because we didn't see each other all the time), and deepening our relationship.

Laura lives in California, and I have now moved to Ajijic, Mexico. She had originally envisioned a more traditional relationship, living with or at least near a partner. But over time, we discovered advantages to living in different places. When we are together, we focus on each other, and when we're apart, she has time for her art, and I have time for community and spirituality.

We seem to co-regulate together very naturally. When one of us is triggered, overall, the other has been able to hold space for working through it with loving kindness.

We feel cared about, and loved enough that it feels safe to have the hard conversations.

We are both committed to learning and growing in our individual lives, and our relationship life.

Before being introduced to CGA, I thought relationship and ease were oxymorons. But because of this metta prayer, I opened to the possibility that I could have a relationship with ease. And we do.

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