The Intelligent, Compassionate Learning Community For Lesbians++
++ Warmly welcoming all self-identified women and adjacent non-binary people who love women, or want to.
Lesbian Narcissists, Empaths & Unavailable Women
(And Lesbian Attachment Healing)
🖤
We had an epic live class on April 27, and if you've ever gotten hurt in a relationship, you owe it to yourself to watch it. We talked about:
1) The big mistakes most of us make that lead us to heartbreak,
2) The reason why painful shut-downs and lack of empathy happen even when neither person involved is a narcissist,
3) What "narcissism" really means, the difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism, and why some of us actually need more (healthy) narcissism
4) How "empaths" get created, and why we fit lock and key with people who have narcissistic traits,
5) Why empath-empath pairings can also be deeply problematic,
6) The two different kinds of unavailable women (or people),
7) The five reasons why so many of us get extra-attracted to unavailability, and what to do about it, and
8) Why everything makes sense when viewed through an attachment lens, and understanding attachment states -- and knowing how to work with them -- can change everything.
Watch it ASAP so you can still sign up for our 4-week class starting May 4 (and hopefully before prices go up May 1)🖤
Help For Lesbian Relationships Is Here!
If you've ever struggled with a girlfriend pulling away... OR with a girlfriend coming on too strong when you just need space... then you need this class! Attachment challenges are the #1 cause of lesbian relationship pain and breakups, and what you'll learn in this ground-breaking 4-week class will change your love life forever.
Lesbian
Attachment Healing
A 4-Week Intensive: May 4, 11, 18 & 25
1:00-3:00 p.m. Pacific Time
(2:00 MT, 3:00 CT, 4:00 ET, 9:00 GMT)
Deep-Dive Group Coaching Available After Each Class,
3:00-4:30, For An Add-On Fee
Lesbian Attachment Healing
A Transformational Live-On-Zoom 4-Part Class
Can You Relate To Any Of These Painful Statements?
"Everything was going great, and then she ghosted me."
"Why does it seem like I always pick the wrong people?"
"When someone gets too close, I get scared I'm going to mess it up."
"I'm attracted to unavailable women."
"I'm drawn to independent women, but then they end up getting clingy."
"She seemed so into me at first, but then she started pulling away."
"Why do relationships have to be so hard?"
The sad truth is, lesbians are often great at falling in love, but our divorce rates are 3X higher than those of other couples. And few people realize that the #1 reason for lesbian breakups and divorces... is attachment wounding.
What is attachment wounding? It's the push-pull between one person whose biggest fear is losing the relationship...and another person whose biggest fear is losing herself. Between one person who just needs more closeness to feel safe... and her girlfriend, who just needs more space. Or one person who needs to talk things through right away, and the other who needs to take a break. Or one woman who wants more time and affection, and another woman who finds her heart closing up, even if she's not sure why. Attachment wounding is behind all this.
The interplay of each person's attachment wounding creates a domino effect. You've been there, right? I sure have. The more I needed, the more overwhelmed my girlfriend felt. Or, the more bonded she got, the more pressured I felt. Pretty soon, both people feel unseen, unheard, and unloved. It's excruciating.
"I just need to know you still care about me. I need to be a priority," says one person. "You're the person I love most in the world. This is a normal thing to want."
"I just need to feel myself again. How can I care about you when I've lost touch with myself? I feel overwhelmed, like I'm drowning in the relationship," says the other. "I just need to get some air."
From either side, it can be easy to blame your partner. "She's got abandonment issues." "She's just scared of intimacy." But blaming doesn't help.
Some of us blame ourselves, too. "What's wrong with me? Why do I feel so needy?" "Am I a terrible person? Why do I shut down and break so many women's hearts?"
The answers lie in understanding, and then healing, your attachment wounds, so you can actually have a sturdy, resilient, flexible, enduring bond. This groundbreaking 4-week class, the first of its kind ever offered specifically for lesbians++, will teach you what to do so that your heart can heal, and your next (or current) love story can have a happy ending.
This course will give you the path forward toward healthy love...
whether you're single,
in a relationship with a partner unwilling to take the class
or taking it as a couple.
Free For Members or
$199 A La Carte
Or get membership benefits for the whole month for just $100 more.
Membership Includes:
🖤 Weekly Dating, Love & Connection Skills Labs led by Conscious Girlfriend Coaches. You'll get four live skill practice labs during the month!
🖤 Watch over 40 on-demand video classes in the world's biggest resource library on lesbian love.
Learn how to go from this...
To THis.
Your Heart Deserves This class.
But What If You Need More Than Just One Month Of Help?
Annual Basic Membership Includes:
Live 4-Week Classes At Least Nine Times Per Year. Value: $1791 year
May 2024
Lesbian Dating & Love Over 60
Lesbian Attachment Healing
June-August 2024
Heal From Lesbian Heartbreak
Highway Out Of Hell: Recovering From Toxic Lesbian Relationships
September-December 2024
Lesbian Dating Savvy: Get Ready To Find Her
Lesbian Dating Empowerment: Know If She's Right For You
Lesbian Online Dating and Lesbian Long-Distance Relationships
Lesbian Communication For Emotional Intimacy (Stop The Fights!)
January-April 2025
Open-Hearted Boundaries & Skillful Requests
Lesbian Bedroom Communication
No More Narcissists or Unavailable Women! Rewriting Your Relationship Scripts
12 Months Of Weekly Coach-Led Dating, Love & Connection Skills Labs. Value: $2487/year
Meet every Tuesday night, rain or shine, with a skillful coach and a like-minded group of lesbians++ determined to crack the code of healthy dating and love. Together, we practice the skills for making connection, knowing who's right for you, getting what you need, and healing conflicts.
Over 40 On-Demand Videos In The World's Biggest Lesbian Love Resource Library. Value: $1899 year
Dive into our archives for a lesbian love education available nowhere else in the world!
TOTAL VALUE: $6177
Yours For A Whole Year, Just $697 Until May 1, Or $997 After May 1
But If You're Really Serious About Your Love Life...
Deep-Dive Membership Includes:
12 Months Of Basic Membership, PLUS
Group Coaching For 90 Minutes After Every Live Class
(That's 36 Group Coaching Sessions Per Year)
TOTAL VALUE: $11,577
Yours For A Whole Year, Just $1097 Until May 1, Or $1997 After May 1
But Who Needs Classes On Being A Girlfriend?
Know anyone who's gotten divorced lately?
The Conscious Girlfriend Academy could save you huge amounts of money,
as well as years lost to fighting, pain and heartache.
Ever pay big weekly therapy bills?
Members describe Conscious Girlfriend Academy as "therapy on steroids" --
or preventive medicine and rehab for your lesbian heart and soul :)
Ever feel like you're lonely, tired of being single, but don't know how to date?
Or like a past relationship shattered you and you know you need to learn to do it differently?
Many lesbians++ say Conscious Girlfriend Academy has given them a path to healthy dating and love.
Lesbian relationships are beautiful, powerful, complex, and challenging.
We need and deserve resources and community to help us honor our deepest longings.
Wait, What Were Those Options Again?
Basic Membership
All Our Live Classes For A Year
+
40+ On-Demand Classes
In The World's Biggest
Lesbian Love Resource Library
+
Weekly Live Coach-Led
Skill-Building Sessions
TOTAL VALUE: $6177
Price Goes Up To $997 On May 1.
Deep-Dive Membership
All Our Live Classes For A Year
+
80+ On-Demand Classes
In The World's Biggest
Lesbian Love Resource Library
+
Weekly Live Coach-Led
Skill-Building Sessions
+
36 Live Group Coaching Sessions
With The Director
TOTAL VALUE: $11,577
Price Goes Up To $1997 On May 1.
We Exist To Support Lesbian & Queer Love
Our Love Is Beautiful
Lesbians and queer women are courageous and powerful,
and relationships between women
can be the very best relationships on the planet.
You deserve happy, healthy love—and you can have it!
But because two women can bond so deeply and quickly,
our relationships can also go bad fast --
if you don't choose a partner wisely,
or don't have the skills to work through conflicts.
The Conscious Girlfriend Academy exists to help you learn how
to find the right partner -- and be the right partner, too.
If you are growth-oriented and motivated to learn,
we'll see you in class!
Meet Some Of Our Members
Frequently Asked Questions
If you're like many of our members, you have a deep longing for a healthy, loving, trust-filled, supportive and passionate relationship, yet you're not sure how to find the right partner.
In Academy classes you'll learn how to create a vision for your ideal relationship -- and build the skills to co-create your half of it. You'll learn how to date with clarity and confidence, how to recognize real compatibility (and not get fooled by chemistry or limerence, the "honeymoon stage"), how to communicate in ways that build emotional intimacy, and how to have a fulfilling sex life, whatever that means for you.
Joining the Academy is like getting a gym membership for your romantic life! It gives you the community support and consistent education and practice you need, to become able to have the love life you want.
And just like a gym membership, your best benefits will come through consistency. Many members continue to attend even once they are in relationships, because they find the Academy supports their love lives then, too.
Yes! We sell all of our four-week classes a la carte. We also offer the option for you to add on a month of membership when you buy a class a la carte, so you can check it out. But honestly, the most transformation happens for those who sign up to join us for a year, and we offer deep discounts and additional perks for yearly members.
The Academy exists to help you gain and integrate the knowledge and skills to change your love life forever. That's an incredibly important and achievable goal, but it usually takes more than just watching a few classes to make it happen. It takes ongoing mentorship, support and practice -- and that's what you'll get by becoming a member.
We recommend joining the Academy for a year because:
1) You get a big discount doing it that way.
2) Paying up front will motivate you to come to as many classes as you actually need, without having to second-guess yourself about each one. The per-class cost is incredibly low when you sign up for a year -- just like at a gym.
3) Getting to know other members will be a big help in creating the love life you actually want. It's hard to do alone, and much easier when you're connected to like-minded women on similar journeys. As an added bonus, many Academy members form deep friendships. And yes, a few have fallen in love :)
Some people have described the Academy as being "like therapy on steroids." While one-on-work work can be very valuable, it's entirely different to be in a group of like-minded women and non-binary people facing similar challenges. We hear over and over, "It helps so much to know I'm not alone." Plus, hearing other members describe your patterns -- or your partner's or ex's patterns -- brings whole new levels of insight.
There are tons of personal growth, dating and relationship healing programs out there, but almost none of them address the unique needs of lesbians and adjacent queer people. We are just like everyone else, but we are also different. Lesbians++ face particular challenges and opportunities in dating and love that are, quite frankly, very different from those faced by heterosexual people or gay men. The Academy is a unique international feel-tank and think-tank offering evidence-based tools... for us.
If you've done a lot of growth work already, you'll be right at home. Many of our members have done therapy, 12-step work, Landmark, and/or other types of spiritual and healing work. (Quite a few of our members are therapists, coaches, or healers themselves.) Other Academy members are newer to the personal growth journey. But all tend to share the motivation to get out of pain, and become able to have the dating and love lives they deeply want.
The other unique gift of the Academy is that in our weekly Skills Labs, you don't just get to learn, you get to actually practice what you learn. Role plays, anyone? Practice asking someone out... saying No... asking for what you want... sharing feelings in healthy ways... working with your own triggers... and much more, in supportive, compassionate, lesbian/queer community.
Yes! We've got Conscious Girlfriend Certified Coaches! Check them out here. CGA coaches have received the world's best training in the particular challenges of lesbian coming out, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships, lesbian attachment, lesbian sex and lesbian breakups -- and their support is very powerful. We absolutely recommend you work with one of them if you can, to accelerate your journey.
However, unless your money and time are unlimited, we strongly encourage you to join the Academy too. Our classes cover life-changing information in a more budget-friendly way, and give you the benefit of getting to actually hear from like-minded women++, develop community and practice skills, as well as get group coaching.
ome people think our prices are high because they have never seen a program like ours before (because, to our knowledge, one has never existed!) So it's hard to know exactly what to compare it to.
Other people think our prices are astonishingly low for what we offer:
It's far cheaper than individual therapy (though not a replacement for it.) It's also far cheaper than most breakups, much less most divorces. And, it's hard to put a price on $$ saved through lack of heartbreak.
Still, we know that some people who want this learning and support simply can't afford it. That's why we also offer many resources completely free.
Yes! We've offered a huge amount of scholarship aid during our first four years of existence. Here is our scholarship policy as of May 1:
BIPOC (lesbians and queer people who have lived experience as Black, Indigenous or People of Color, including Asian or Latinx), can get up to 75% off on our coach training programs, Basic and Deep-Dive Memberships. To apply, just write us at [email protected].
We are also glad to provide scholarship assistance to non-BIPOC people. To apply, please do the following:
Once we see that you are motivated and sincere, we'll gladly work with you to get you into our programs.
Remember, prices go up May 1.
We Exist To Support Lesbian & Queer Love.
The happy, healthy relationship you want is possible. It just takes learning how.
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