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- A Lesbian Life Story
Widowed At 67, Margaret Wondered, "Is It Too Late For Me To Come Out?"
When her husband Charles died, Margaret began to walk. Not just strolls through the neighborhood, but long, looping pilgrimages out beyond the edge of town—past where the trees leaned close enough to listen.
- Self Compassion & Growth
Coming Out & Coming Home: How To Traverse The Great Divide To Living Your Best Lesbian Or Queer Life
There are sooo many kinds of support you might need when you're coming out... and so many things that can get in the way.
Coming out isn't a one-and-done. For most of us, it's a journey that starts with a first glimmer of interest or attraction... to the first time you name it to yourself... to the first time you act on it... to the first time you tell another person... and sometimes there are years or decades between one of these moments, and the next.
- Sex & Gender
Can You Become A Naturalized Citizen Of The Lesbian/Queer Nation?
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- Wise Dating
The Cure For Awkward Lesbian Dating (Deer In Headlights Syndrome)
A dear friend recently told me about a second date she had this week. The woman sitting across from her was smart, accomplished, witty, interesting and attractive. My friend was having a good time. But when she asked, "So, what brought you to the dating app?" her date flinched. It looked like she had never even thought about that question.
- Personal Story
A Celebration Of Butches (And Studs, Mascs & MOC Lesbians)
Honestly, because I have always found butches the hottest people on the planet, it took me a long time to understand how much shit they go through.
The first time I kissed a woman, at age 18, it was an
experiment, but didn't do much for me. The second time, two years later, it was someone I definitely found visually attractive, but still, nothing happened.
- Sex & Gender
Taking the "Am I a Lesbian?" Quiz: What It Means and What Comes Next
At some point - maybe recently, maybe a while ago - you’ve found yourself wondering: Am I a lesbian? Maybe the question whispered in your mind during a conversation with a friend, or maybe it hit like a bolt of lightning after an unexpected surge of attraction. Maybe you’ve even taken an “Am I a lesbian?” quiz online - maybe more than once. If so, welcome. You’re not alone.
- Sex & Gender
Being a Late Bloomer Lesbian & Coming Out Later In Life
Been thinking about late bloomers.
Actually, I’ve been thinking about the term ‘late bloomer lesbian.' And how there’s a part of me that doesn’t like it.
Sometimes the way I've heard it makes it sound like something was off with the lesbian crop (I used to farm) and it didn’t blossom when it should have.
- Wise Dating
Conscious Lesbian Partnership Vs. Conscious Lesbian Solitude: Which Is More Healing?
OK, this is going to be a kind of geeky conversation about how to heal from the relational trauma most of us are carrying these days, and it might be provocative—so, dial up your curiosity meter as you read.
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- Breakups & Healing
Why Lesbian Divorce Rates Are 3X Higher, And What We Can Do About It
It's an uncomfortable truth: lesbians get divorced in much larger numbers than other couples who marry. Most studies show lesbians divorcing at more than twice the rate of gay men or heterosexual couples.
- Wise Dating
Your Online Dating Profile—How To Get It Right!
Because online dating overwhelms people with choices, what you say in your profile is really important.
- Self-Compassion & Growth
Hurricane Helene Reflections & Lesbian Storms (a note from Jen)
When I found Conscious Girlfriend Academy 2 years ago, I had just washed ashore, after having fled a lesbian relationship that I'd classify as a catastrophic tropical cyclone.
- Wise Dating
Lesbian AI Girlfriends—easier than real thing
On the one hand, it's fascinating. Because human brains are wired for connection, we can start to feel things just by texting someone we've never met. It turns out that even when people know they're chatting with a bot, they still fall in love.
- Breakups & Healing
The #1 Easily Preventable Cause of Breakups
Think for a minute: do you like being criticized? Ever? And, does feeling criticized by someone ever help you feel closer to them?
- Sex & Gender
Lesbian sexuality is beautiful and powerful. Unfortunately, you probably haven’t been given that message nearly often enough! So let me say it again.
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I'm Ruth Schwartz, director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy and a fierce advocate of lesbian/queer love. If you've ever struggled (and who hasn't?!), we're here to help.
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