I was teaching at a writer's conference when I spotted a woman who took my breath away. It was the fantasy kind of chemistry so many of us dream about. Her name was Kim, and she told me later she'd had that same feeling when she saw my face on the poster advertising the conference.

Why we have so much of it, and how to get to harmony, peace and ease in lesbian love

OK, let's face it: there are many attractive, charming, hot women who are not available. Maybe she's straight, or she's in a relationship, or she's just not ready. Maybe she even thinks she's ready... 

Jenny was lonely. She'd been through a bad breakup and was crying a lot, trying to keep herself from texting her ex, when a friend encouraged her to join a lesbian Facebook group... 

If you’re watching The Ultimatum: Queer Love on Netflix and feeling unsettled, you’re not alone. The show has sparked fascination, heartbreak, and a lot of lesbian drama. And also an ache...

Lesbian love bombing: a personal and community wake-up call: who does it, why it happens, and how to keep your heart safe. See, it's not just "those" women who love-bomb. It can be any of us. 

Dating over 40 as a lesbian or queer woman can be both empowering and overwhelming. Maybe you're newly out, re-entering the dating world after a breakup, or just tired of feeling invisible on apps...

There’s something uniquely thrilling about stepping outside your everyday life and setting off on an adventure with other women who get you. And for many older lesbians, that kind of connection isn’t just a bonus, it’s a lifeline.

Lesbian dating can be exciting, vulnerable, or maybe even awkward. It can be hard to get past the small talk, yet “Where did you grow up?” and “How many siblings do you have?” will never be the stuff of real connection. 

If you've ever found yourself wondering, "How do I become a lesbian?", you are not alone, and your question is more common than you might think. First, let's take a deep breath together....

Honestly, because I have always found butches the hottest people on the planet, it took me a long time to understand how much shit they go through.

When her husband Charles died, Margaret began to walk. Not just strolls through the neighborhood, but long, looping pilgrimages out beyond the edge of town—past where the trees leaned close enough to listen.

Oral sex between women can be one of the most intimate, pleasurable, and deeply connecting experiences you can share. But it can also be scary, awkward, or downright unpleasant. If you feel nervous, unsure, or even inadequate, you’re not alone. Many lesbians and queer women, regardless of age or experience, carry shame or fear about our bodies, pleasure, and performance.

As the U.S. debates birthright citizenship, it's gotten me thinking about the lesbian/queer nation. Almost none of us had lesbian/queer parents, so we've had to acquire our "citizenship," our sense of lesbian/queer community and belonging, in other ways.

At some point - maybe recently, maybe a while ago - you’ve found yourself wondering: Am I a lesbian? Maybe the question whispered  in your mind during a conversation with a friend, or maybe it hit like a bolt of lightning after an unexpected surge of attraction. Maybe you’ve even taken an “Am I a lesbian?” quiz online - maybe more than once. If so, welcome. You’re not alone.