- Coming Out & Coming Home

Coming out isn’t a one-time event. For most of us, it’s a winding journey, full of questions, revelations, courage, and sometimes, long pauses in between. It starts with a spark, a flicker of attraction, a moment of recognition. Then maybe, months or years later, we name it to ourselves. We act on it. We share it. We come out. And then, we do it again.

- A Lesbian Life Story

When her husband Charles died, Margaret began to walk. Not just strolls through the neighborhood, but long, looping pilgrimages out beyond the edge of town—past where the trees leaned close enough to listen.

- Self Compassion & Growth

There are sooo many kinds of support you might need when you're coming out... and so many things that can get in the way. 

Coming out isn't a one-and-done. For most of us, it's a journey that starts with a first glimmer of interest or attraction... to the first time you name it to yourself... to the first time you act on it... to the first time you tell another person... and sometimes there are years or decades between one of these moments, and the next.

- Sex & Gender

- Wise Dating

If you’re watching The Ultimatum: Queer Love on Netflix and feeling unsettled, you're not alone. The show has sparked fascination, heartbreak, and a lot of lesbian drama. But also, for many of us, a deep ache. There’s something about watching queer women flail toward clarity with cameras rolling, cocktails flowing, and their hearts on the line that feels... not exactly healthy.

- Personal Story

Honestly, because I have always found butches the hottest people on the planet, it took me a long time to understand how much shit they go through.

The first time I kissed a woman, at age 18, it was an

experiment, but didn't do much for me. The second time,  two years later, it was someone I definitely found visually attractive, but still, nothing happened.

- Sex & Gender

At some point - maybe recently, maybe a while ago - you’ve found yourself wondering: Am I a lesbian? Maybe the question whispered  in your mind during a conversation with a friend, or maybe it hit like a bolt of lightning after an unexpected surge of attraction. Maybe you’ve even taken an “Am I a lesbian?” quiz online - maybe more than once. If so, welcome. You’re not alone.

- Sex & Gender

Been thinking about late bloomers.

Actually, I’ve been thinking about the term ‘late bloomer lesbian.' And how there’s a part of me that doesn’t like it.

Sometimes the way I've heard it makes it sound like something was off with the lesbian crop (I used to farm) and it didn’t blossom when it should have.