"I'm connecting with like-minded women, learning, and even meeting women I might want to date. It's amazing!"

The Conscious Girlfriend Academy is an online education and support mecca 

for depth-oriented lesbians and women who love women. 

  • Just coming out, a lifelong lesbian, or anything in between? Queer, bisexual, or don't like labels? We're here for you.

    Conscious Girlfriend welcomes, supports and celebrates all women who love women, or want to.

  • Oriented toward personal growth and meaningful connection? So are we. 

    Conscious Girlfriend's work is intelligent, compassionate, and incorporates research from neuroscience, trauma healing, psychology and the study of successful relationships. 

  • We really are everywhere!

    If you value healthy, conscious dating, sexuality and relationships, you'll be right at home, wherever you are! We are based in the United States, but are honored to have members from all over the world.

  • The Academy offers 12 or more Zoom classes and groups monthly, so you have many opportunities to learn, connect and build community with like-minded women.

    Your membership lets you pick and choose from a rich array of topics! In addition, some of our wonderful community members volunteer to lead additional gatherings free of charge (their free community offerings are listed at the very bottom of the page, so make sure to check for them!) 

Conscious Girlfriend Academy Members Say...

I just wanted to thank you for putting together this wonderful Academy experience for us. It is definitely helping me feel more connected with other women, as a late-in-life, fairly recent discoverer of what I think of as my sexual fluidity.

Carla

Age 42

Thank you for creating such a powerful and loving community.  I'm very much enjoying the Academy offerings.  It’s so much more heart-opening and encouraging than the dating apps. I'll see you online again soon!

Eliza

Age 50

Wow! Today’s Academy group was wonderful! The visualizations we did today were very empowering for me. Also, a few nights ago I got triggered and then got to share about it with two other participants, and got supported with such love and kindness. It was quite healing. 

Dena

Age 66

I’m loving the Academy, having beautiful conversations and anticipating good friendships at the very least! It’s helping me feel a new spark and optimism at this point in my life. And I have gotten two women's phone numbers already!

Ameli

Age 64

Welcome to the Conscious Girlfriend Academy

The Academy is an intelligent, compassionate online hub where all lesbians, queer women and other women-loving-women can meet, form friendships or more, and learn life-changing skills to create happy, healthy love.

  • We are a very special community. Most of our members say they've never found anything else like it: a place for all women who love women to share open-hearted conversation in a safe, compassionate atmosphere, while learning how to date and love skillfully.

  • If you're on a personal growth or spiritual path, you'll feel right at home in the Academy! Our members tend to be smart, compassionate and growth-oriented women who value depth, and are willing to grow. "What a really safe, lovely space for so many women to show up," someone wrote in recently. "It's really life-giving to be in connection this way," someone else said. 

  • Academy members come from all over. Geography is no barrier! We meet on Zoom, and use breakout rooms so you can meet and connect with other women 1:1 and in small groups. There are groups for spiritually-oriented women, women new(er) to loving women, women healing from breakups, women seeking to get better at communicating their needs, and many other topics. (See the schedule below for details!) 

More from Conscious Girlfriend Academy members:

The Academy is such a gift - a wonderful community of lesbians to talk to and interact with! It’s invaluable to me. I’m still working on being the right partner (as well as finding her) and I can see myself wanting to go through the course materials again and again.

Teresa

Age 36

I’m loving the Academy, having beautiful conversations and anticipating good friendships at the very least! It’s helping me feel a new spark and optimism at this point in my life.

Ameli

Age 64

As a new member, I wanted to share how much I enjoyed participating in the recent Connection Group and also the Skills Class! I can’t wait to watch the recording of the class because there was so much information in it. Thanks so much for making this available to our community. 

Dorothy

Age 63

The Academy's loving boundaries class helped me very much, since I come from a codependent home. I think I am becoming more able to have boundaries with friends now. I made a request of a friend recently, and she received it well. This is radical for me and bodes well for my next relationship!

Julia

Age 63

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More About Conscious Girlfriend

Conscious Girlfriend is the #1 global resource providing education and support for women who love women. Since 2014, women from 18 countries have taken our classes!

 

Clearly, lesbians everywhere need and want resources for healthy love.

 

Whether you're just coming out, healing from a breakup,

ready to meet someone special, 

eager to learn more about healthy female-female sexuality,

excited about learning conscious communication skills,

or on a mission to make your love last, 

we are here for you. 

And we welcome all women who love women, 

whatever you call yourself.

 

By the way, becoming what we call a "conscious girlfriend" will benefit all your relationships, including that relationship you're in 24/7 --

yes, your relationship with yourself!

 

It's not just about dating and romantic partnership. And we welcome women who are happily single, single and looking, single and

getting over a breakup, dating, or in a committed relationship.

In other words, come as you are:) 

Conscious Girlfriend Academy Faculty

Most Academy classes are taught by Conscious Girlfriend's director, Ruth. But we have some amazing guest faculty planning to join us, too!

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. is the director of Conscious Girlfriend. Ruth has published eight books, including Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, and has taught at six universities. She is a certified Somatica Method Intimacy & Sexuality coach, and studied coaching with Gay and Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving and many other books. Ruth is also certified in hypnotherapy, core shamanism, and other transformational tools. She has been in private practice since 2003. 

Anna Benassi, MFT

Anna Benassi, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in grief, loss, couples work and Gestalt Therapy. She teaches at the California Institute of Integral Studies and has been a practicing Buddhist for over 20 years. Anna is much beloved by her clients for her ability to incorporate humor, play and quirkiness into the serious topics of love and relationships. Her website is www.annabenassi.com.

Kai Wu

Kai Wu is a love and sex coach with extensive training in Tantra and Ancestral Healing Lineage Repair, as well as all things sexual. She is of Chinese/Taiwanese ancestry, was born in Chile, and speaks Spanish, Mandarin and Cantonese. She has been immersed in her own ancestral healing and the reclamation of Chinese reverence practices for over 15 years. Her website is www.lovebodysoul.com

Stef Coleman, MFT

Stef Coleman, MFT, is a  licensed psychotherapist who specializes in resolving the effects of trauma and dysfunctional family systems. She uses a somatic approach that incorporates Parts Work, Internal Family Systems, EMDR as well as other techniques to facilitate deep healing and subsequent change. She is also a 20+ year student of The Diamond Approach, which heavily influences her work. She works extensively with LGBQ individuals and couples. Her website is www.stefcoleman.com

Maxwell Pearl, Ph.D.

Max Pearl (formerly Michelle Murrain) co-founded Conscious Girlfriend in 2013, and later transitioned gender. Max has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience and a Certificate of Theological Studies. He is a long-time practitioner of contemplative spirituality and has trained with Gay and Katie Hendricks, Body Trust and Authentic Movement. Max's new work is www.transresilience.com

 Although he no longer identifies as a woman, Max will co-lead workshops on gender identity, complexity and dysphoria.

Kat Kolegas

Kat Kolegas has an extensive background in sexuality work, including training in Somatica Method Intimacy & Sexuality Coaching, sexological bodywork, professional cuddling, and Orgasmic Meditation. Her passion is helping smart and successful women feel sexy and empowered in their bodies so they can attract the love of their life and have amazing, fulfilling, connected sex. Kat is also bilingual in Spanish. Her website is www.katkolegas.love

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More from Academy Members...

Yesterday's classes were incredible. I learned so much in the Boundaries class, definitely some life-changing knowledge in there! And the spiritual connection group was nothing short of delightful; the energy was so nurturing.

Audrey

Age 38

Thank you again for creating this Academy -- you have no idea of the amount of impact this has already made in my life! In the past I felt panicky when a match reached out to me on a dating site. Now I'm gaining so much confidence!

Lauri

Age 49

As a new Academy member, I wanted to share how much I enjoyed participating in the recent groups and classes! I can’t wait to watch the recording of the class because there was so much information in it. Thanks so much for making this available to our community. 

Robbi

Age 34

The Academy is helping me practice meeting women and sharing myself. I am excited and look forward more group meetings. Also, I have already contact info and have been talking with several women from the group. The “From Conflict to Connection” class was also excellent.

Alexa S.

Age 60

Academy Schedule

Please Note: All times are listed in Pacific Time, so please adjust for your own time zone!

For example, start time will be 1 hour later for MST, 2 hours later for CST, 3 hours later for EST.

MAY 2020

  • Saturday, May 16, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Gender Identities & Roles (with special guest Maxwell Pearl, formerly Michelle Murrain, www.transresilience.com)

    Butch / Femme / Stud / Boi / Grrl / Genderqueer / Trans / Lesbian / Queer / Gay / Bisexual / Pansexual… What, if anything, do these terms mean for you? Why do many butch or stud lesbians end up transitioning to male? What does that mean for lesbians who prefer masculine-of-center women - or for masculine-of-center women who start wondering about their own gender identity? What changes and what stays the same when someone transitions gender? How can you embrace your own gender identity and its complexities, whatever they are?

  • Saturday, May 16, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: The Art of Flirting & Romantic/Sexual Invitation

    An amazing evening with special guest Kat Kolegas, an expert flirt (and Somatica-trained dating coach) who will join us for this fun and empowering group! Kat makes flirting feel easy, natural and fun. She’s also an expert on consent.

  • Tuesday, May 19, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Sacred Sexuality 101

    A powerful, heart-opening and spirit-connecting workshop with special guests Cindy Manit and Hannah Idalia, founders of Prioritize Pleasure: An Urban Ritual for Queer Womxn. This will be an excursion into self-acceptance, sexual healing and expansion.

  • Tuesday, May 19, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Connection Group: Healing from A Breakup

    Lesbian breakups can be the most painful partings on the planet. Whether your breakup was recent or long ago, learn why the hurt and anger sometimes last so long, and how to finally move on – and receive and give support to other women in that process.

  • Thursday, May 21, 5:00-7:00 pm

    Class: Releasing Blocks to Full Erotic Aliveness & Connection (with special guest Megan Tennity, www.relatingwithgrace.com)

    It’s painful to be blocked from your full erotic self, yet most of us live out our whole lives that way. Megan is passionate about helping you change that! Whether you’re blocked by internalized homophobia, shame, trauma, body image or just never having had a good lesbian sex ed class (who has?!), this class will help you begin inhabiting your erotic self in a whole new way.

  • Saturday, May 23, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: How to Know and Ask for What You Want in Bed

    What makes someone a good kisser for you? How can you ask someone to touch you harder or softer, faster or slower? Is there a way you wish someone would go down on you, but no one ever does? Do you ever worry that it takes you too long to come, or feel like you have to perform or fake it? How do you bring toys, fantasies or props into the mix, if you want them? And what if you don’t actually know what you want – how can you discover more about your own pleasure? We’ll explore these and other hot topics.

  • Saturday, May 23, 5:00-7:00 pm

    Class: Releasing Blocks to Love (with special guest Anna Benassi, www.annabenassi.com)

    Some women come into Conscious Girlfriend really wanting a partner, and just needing a bit more clarity, skills or confidence in order to find her. Often, they end up in new relationships quite quickly. Others come in weighed-down by old hurt, blocks and negative beliefs. If you’re in this category, you may truly want a partner, but you just can't ever seem to find her, and instead, you may find yourself having experiences that reinforce your pain. In this workshop, Anna will help you begin to understand and shift those underground forces and liberate yourself to be truly ready for love. 

  • Tuesday, May 26, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Class: Building Emotional Self-Awareness & Literacy

    Learning to recognize what you feel when you feel it is actually an advanced Conscious Girlfriend skill. No matter how well you know yourself, there's always more to know - and the more fully and compassionately you understand your feelings, the better all your relationships will go, including your 24/7 relationship with yourself. This class will focus on helping you learn more about your emotions, and support others to do the same.

  • Thursday, May 28, 2:00-4:00 pm

    Group Coaching Call for Advanced Academy Members only.

    Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

  • Saturday, May 30, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Connection Group for Spiritually-Oriented Women

    Buddhist, Christian, pagan, Jew, meditator, mystic, energy worker, Muslim, Sufi, “spiritual but not religious,” yogi or just person who feels spiritually connected to the natural world? Come meet like-minded women and share spiritual perspectives and practices in a heart-opening environment.

  •  Saturday, May 30, 12:00-1:30 pm Pacific 

    Special free class open to the entire Conscious Girlfriend community! Dating During Covid-19: Whether, How & Why. Access info: Click https://zoom.us/j/92969952467 at class time!

    (Saturday, May 30, 5:00-6:30 pm PDT)

     

    Note: It's best to attend with a laptop or desktop for full Zoom functionality, but smart phones and tablets also work. If you absolutely have to, you can also call in via regular phone: Dial 1 669 900 6833 OR 1 346 248 7799 OR 1 646 558 8656 (any of the phone numbers will work), and then enter Meeting ID 929 6995 2467. This class will be recorded. It will also include breakout groups so you can connect personally with 4-5 other women. Breakout groups are NOT recorded :) 

JUNE 2020

  • Tuesday, June 2, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Chemistry, Chemistry, Chemistry

    What causes that spark? What can you do if it’s not there with someone great – but overpowers you with someone who is clearly not right for you in other ways? Is physical attraction always visual? Does chemistry equal sexual compatibility? What is the relationship between physical, mental and emotional chemistry? What about “friend chemistry,” or good conversational flow and rapport? Learn more about how chemistry actually works for you and for other women, and how to keep it from leading you headlong into the wrong relationships. 

  • Saturday, June 6, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Frank Talk About Woman-to-Woman Sex

    What makes sex mind-blowing or mediocre? How does sex change after menopause? Can your sex drive actually be too high? Why isn’t there a female Viagra? Why do most women want less sex when they’re stressed, but a few of us actually want more? What really makes someone a great lover (or a lousy lover?) Which sexual theme is your favorite – passionate, romantic, dominant or spiritual? Is it okay not to like oral sex? Does orgasm really matter? What if your partner fantasizes about someone else while she’s with you? Join us for discussion of these and other burning topics. A no-holds-barred conversation!

  • Saturday, June 6, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Breakout Groups for Frank Talk About Woman-to-Woman Sex

    A follow-up to the class earlier today! You’ll have a chance to debrief with women in small groups, and explore more about how you tick, sexually, as well as hear other experiences. What constitutes sexual compatibility for you? Which sexual skills do you personally want to improve (hint: this could just mean knowing more about what you want and asking for it. It could also mean letting go of performance-driven sex…)

  • Tuesday, June 9, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Healing Sexual Shame & Internalized Homophobia

    None of us grew up in a culture that celebrated healthy female-female sexuality, or (most) female bodies. Today you’ll have a chance to talk about how cultural repression, abuse, racism, body-shaming, gender-normative stereotypes and other factors may have messed with your mind. Together we’ll co-create a compassionate, healing, open environment that helps you release shame and celebrate yourself and your sexuality. 

  • Saturday, June 13, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Healing Abandonment or Engulfment Fears

    Your “attachment style” is what often leads to repeated painful dynamics in relationships, whether you’re the person who wants more closeness, or needs more space. How does brain science explain why abandonment or engulfment (“being taken over”) fears affect us so deeply? Why does it sometimes seem as if “opposites attract” around this painful issue? And how can you create more harmony inside yourself and in your relationships?

  • Saturday, June 13, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Deepening Your Understanding of Abandonment and Engulfment Fears and Your Attachment Style

    Tonight’s breakout groups will give you a chance to further explore the questions brought up by the class earlier today. Gain more insight into how attachment style plays out inside of you and in your relationships, and learn from other womens’ experience, too.

  • Tuesday, June 16, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Women New(er) to Loving Women

    How do you adapt to a new sexual orientation, culture and identity? Where do you fit? How do you meet women? Is not having a “lesbian relationship pedigree” a problem? How do you come out to others in your life, and navigate their responses? Can you be a great lover even if you lack experience? (Btw, the answer is YES!) As a “newbie,” what are your burning questions and secret fears? Join us for mutual illumination and support. (And if you've been out for a long time and just want to support the newbies, you can attend, too.)  

  • Saturday, June 20, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Relationship Masters vs. Relationship Disasters: The Skills You Need

    In this class, we’ll dive deep into relationship researcher John Gottman’s findings about the “four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” – behaviors almost certain to lead to unhappiness and breakups – and their antidotes. You’ll gain more understanding of why good women often unintentionally create relationship disasters, and what to do instead to create more harmony, affection, intimacy, trust and ease.

  • Saturday, June 20, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Connection & Practice Groups: Gaining Relationship Mastery to Avoid Relationship Disaster(y)

    A chance for frank, compassionate breakout group conversation with other women, so you can identify your growth edges and practice new skills to avoid “the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” and cultivate more harmony, affection, trust, intimacy and ease.

  • Tuesday, June 23, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Dating Over 50

    What’s different about dating and looking for love when you’re over 50? What do you need and want at this stage of your life, and how can you bring it into being? What blocks, fears and old beliefs do you need to release in order to be able to find healthy love – potentially for the rest of your life? Potential topics include: dealing with income disparities, health issues, adult children, and more.

  • Thursday, June 25, 2:00-4:00 pm

    Group Coaching Call for Advanced Academy Members only.

    Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

  • Saturday, June 27, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Red Flags, Green Flags, Fears & Compatibility: What to Look For (and Look Out For) While Dating

    Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

  • Saturday, June 27, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Group: Connection & Conversation About Red Flags and Compatibility

    A chance to dive deeper in small-group conversations about all the issues brought up in today’s class. What red flags do you most need to watch for now, in yourself or others? When can a red flag actually turn yellow or even green when you know someone better – and what’s truly a deal-breaker?

  • Tuesday, June 30

    Take a night off 😊

JULY 2020

  • Saturday, July 4

    Take a day and night off!

  • Tuesday, July 7, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Connection Group for Spiritually-Oriented Women

    Buddhist, Christian, pagan, Jew, meditator, mystic, energy worker, Muslim, Sufi, “spiritual but not religious,” yogi or just person who feels spiritually connected to the natural world? Come meet like-minded women and share spiritual perspectives and practices in a heart-opening environment.

  • Saturday, July 11, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Who You Are – and Who You Want to Be – in Bed

    We’ll cover several frameworks for understanding your core desires, including your Core Erotic Theme, your Erotic Blueprint, and your “hottest sexual movie.” Learn to mine past great (and not-so-great) sexual experiences and fantasies for information to help you recognize and celebrate your own unique turn-on map.

  • Saturday, July 11, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Small-Group Conversations About Who You Are – And Who You Want to Be – in Bed

    A chance to debrief in a compassionate, shame-free, curious environment! Learn more about other womens’ experience and desires, and share your own to whatever extent you’re comfortable.

  • Tuesday, July 14, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Butch/Stud, Femme, Androgynous, Non-Binary, Something Else, or None of the Above

    How do you define your lesbian or queer identity? What does it mean for your attractions? If you’re more butch or stud than she is, does that mean you have to initiate? What about femmes who like femmes, or butches who like butches, or women who like both – or neither? What if you’re “butch in the streets and femme in the sheets,” or vice versa? (And what does that even mean?) Share what’s true for you and learn more about how all this works for other women.

  • Saturday, July 18, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Initiating Friendship, Pre-Dating and Dating With (More) Ease

    Many women struggle to ask for a phone number or suggest a get-together – so often, neither person does, even when both are interested! Many women also struggle to say No to invitations they don’t want. How can you learn to be both clear and compassionate? How can you build the emotional resilience to make a first move? How can you know whether your get-together is or would be a date? What does “dating” mean anyway? What if she likes you more than you like her – or vice versa? We’ll tackle these rich questions and support each other to develop more ease and clarity.

  • Saturday, July 18, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Women New(er) to Loving Women

    How do you adapt to a new sexual orientation, culture and identity? Where do you fit? How do you meet women? Is not having a “lesbian relationship pedigree” a problem? How do you come out to others in your life, and navigate their responses? Can you be a great lover even if you lack experience? (Btw, the answer is YES!) As a “newbie,” what are your burning questions and secret fears? Join us for mutual illumination and support. And if you've been out for a long time and just want to offer support to the newbies, you're welcome, too. 

  • Tuesday, July 21, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Connection Group: How to Know and Ask for What You Want, In and Out of Bed

    How do you ask someone to touch you harder or softer, faster or slower? How do you ask someone to speak more slowly or loudly so that you can hear her? How do you let someone know you’re wanting empathy from her, not advice? What if you don’t like the way she kisses? Learn and practice how to  make clear, specific requests in a way that helps someone hear and respond.

  • Saturday, July 25, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Conscious Uncoupling (Even by Yourself)

    Learn how to emotionally, mentally an energetically let go of past partner(s) and make peace with the past, even if her behavior is or was completely unreasonable. Letting go and moving on with clarity and compassion – especially for yourself – is an inside job. We’ll talk about how to get there.

  • Saturday, July 25, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Small-Group Connection around Relationship Loss

    Whether your partner died, left you, or you left her, it’s often hard to move on. This is a chance for compassionate sharing in breakout groups, learning from other womens’ experiences, and being witnessed in ways that help you make peace with the past and embrace the present.

  • Tuesday, July 28, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Class: Understanding & Healing Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics

    In so many relationships, one person feels abandoned or like she’s not getting enough connection, while the other person protests, “No matter what I do, it’s not enough.” What causes this difference, and what can you do to skillfully navigate the pain and confusion it causes? We’ll discuss how to co-create an autonomy-intimacy balance that works for both of you, and also how to understand and work with the painful triggers this issue brings up.

  • Thursday, July 30, 2:00-4:00 pm

    Group Coaching Call for Advanced Academy Members only.

    Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

Want even more depth? Consider the Advanced Academy option. 

Before starting the Academy, Conscious Girlfriend was best-known for our life-changing class, The Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love.

 

In the past, this course was only available two or three times per year,

and took place over 12 weeks, with 7 group coaching calls.

Many women said that was just too fast. 

 

Now the Roadmap has a new, more accessible format!

 

If you choose the Advanced Academy option, you’ll get access to all 12 of the Roadmap modules, which include audios and written worksheets.

 

Plus, you'll be able to attend a 2-hour group coaching call every month for 12 months. During those calls, we'll do role-plays focused on your specific concerns, and you'll get personal coaching. 

 

Best of all, instead of having to rush through the Roadmap class

in just 12 weeks, you’ll be supported with the material for a whole year.

 

The Roadmap course is exactly what it sounds like:

an experiential and skills-based map to ready you for a relationship, 

guide you through conscious dating,

help you build clarity and confidence,

and support you in developing the skills for long-term partnership. 

 

Now, let me introduce you to a few women who took the Roadmap, 

and got life-changing results...

 

  • Lucy's Story

    Lucy was in her 40s and had come out after a long marriage to a man. She had only had one relationship with a woman, and it ended badly.  She knew some women would rule her out because she had two kids at home, and, especially because of her kids, she was really picky.

     

    So she doubted there was really someone out there for her, but she took the Roadmap anyway... and it gave her the clarity and confidence she needed.

     

    Within just a few months of finishing the Roadmap, Lucy met an amazing woman (on Tinder, of all places!) They have now been domestic partners for several years. Lucy's new partner adores her kids, and they post amazing pictures on Facebook of their family vacations. 

     

    This is how magic works: Lucy hates to cook, and among the many other qualities she wanted in a partner, she really hoped to find someone who would cook for her. Guess what? The woman she met is a chef!

     

    Lucy wrote to me:

     

    Taking the Roadmap really allowed me to focus on putting out into the universe what I wanted quite specifically. I put into my dating profile things I might not have before taking your course, and looked for specific traits I knew I needed, that I didn't know about before. I believe that was a big factor into why I even found her.  She really is what I have been looking for.   I was one of those women over 40 that wondered if finding the right partner was even possible at this age. Now I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life.

  • Elizabeth's Story

    Elizabeth was in her 50s and gun-shy. She had a history of being attracted to partners who were not emotionally safe for her.

     

    She took the Roadmap class and also did 1:1 coaching with me, so we could rewire her attraction patterns.  (Yes, this is doable!)

     

    The Roadmap helped her realize that she actually got turned on by women who felt dangerous to her. This is not uncommon. But though danger felt sexy, it definitely didn't lead to happy relationships. 

     

    After we’d been coaching for a few months, and Elizabeth dated a few women who fit the old pattern, she met a woman at a party and noticed that something different was happening. There was chemistry and she could actually see that this woman was good for her, too. 

     

    Some bumps came up early on, and the Roadmap helped Elizabeth and her new girlfriend get through them and stay centered. Now they’re married and have been together for five years. They're local, so sometimes I run into them around town, and Elizabeth always introduces me as “the dating coach who made this possible for me.”

     

    Of course, the truth is that she made it possible for herself. But I'm really glad that the Roadmap helped her do that. 

  • Jeanette's Story

    Jeanette was in her 60s, and though she had been in a relationship with a woman for over 20 years, it wasn’t a happy or healthy bond. When that ended, she was easy prey for a woman who was toxic and destructive. When their passionate relationship went very, very bad, Jeanette knew she needed help.

     

    The Roadmap helped her realize that her relationship patterns dated back to her difficult childhood – and more importantly, helped her heal them. She spent months really getting ready to open her heart to someone healthy, even though she doubted she could find that person (especially since she lived in a remote area with few lesbians.)

     

    I kept telling Jeanette, “Magic can happen! It only takes one, if she’s the right one.”

     

    Jeanette did a little dating, but no one felt quite right. Still, she kept doing her internal work, and then magic did happen. A mutual acquaintance introduced Jeanette and Maureen because they had an unusual hobby in common. Then they spent months getting to know each other, building a friendship without anything more.

     

    It turned out that Maureen had previously thought of herself as straight, but the chemistry between her and Jeanette was undeniable – and eventually, they both ‘fessed up, and Maureen began coming out of the closet to her friends and family.

     

    Today, Jeanette and Maureen continue to build a deeper, more intimate, healthier relationship than either of them had ever thought was possible. 

  • Tiffany's Story

    Tiffany was in her 20s, and very shy. She had grown up in a religious family, and had a lot of trouble accepting herself as queer. She had come out to only one friend, who promptly rejected her.

     

    But the Roadmap class helped her build a community of loving, accepting lesbian and queer women friends (and big sisters, mothers, aunties and lesbian grandmothers!)

     

    Tiffany took the Roadmap class twice, and over time, she came out of her shell. She began attending the LGBTQ group at her college, then started using the lesbian dating apps. Soon she made some queer friends her own age. Then, after a few months, one of them suggested they become girlfriends.

     

    Tiffany wrote me, “When I started the class, I was so isolated and couldn’t imagine how I could ever live a real life as the person I am. It seemed impossible. Truthfully I just reached out from desperation. Now I have friends, a girlfriend, and so much more self-acceptance. I honestly think the Roadmap saved my life.” 

I could go on… and on… and on.

 

These four stories are just a handful of the amazing transformations I have been privileged to witness in women who took the Roadmap course -- women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and yes, 70s too.

 

There's no upper or lower age limit on healthy love. 

And the Roadmap will help you prepare for that love, and find it.

 

To get access to the 12-module Roadmap Class and monthly group coaching sessions, choose the Advanced Member option. 

Which Academy Option is Right For You?

Full Academy

$99/mo.

Or pay only $58/month when you sign up for a full year at $697! 

Come to any or all of our monthly offerings!

8 Connection Groups + 4 Skills Classes per month (Skills Class recordings available, too)

Private Facebook Group for Academy Members

 

PDF Copy of the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love

 

Advanced

Member

$1297/yr.

Save $491 when you pay in full for the year! Or choose

12 pay - $149/mo.

All the Benefits of Full Academy Membership, PLUS... 

 

Access to our comprehensive 12-module course, the Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love, plus

 

A 2-hour group coaching call each month, exclusively for Advanced members (includes role-playing, laser coaching, and other opportunities to integrate the material more deeply) plus

 

A Private Facebook Group just for Roadmappers (along with the private Academy Facebook group)

Just the Skills 

$49/mo.

Or pay only $33/month when you sign up for a full year at $397! 

Come to any or all of our 4 Skills Classes per month (recordings available)

Private Facebook Group for Academy Members

 

PDF Copy of the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love

More from our members...

Your class on Solo Sexual Enlivenment was very freeing, yes edgy, but you have a way of breaking the ice, and giving permission really resonates with me. I think that permission is really what I’ve needed for so long to let go (of unhealthy people and patterns), and to be my queer self. 

Gereen

Age 40

GREAT session yesterday! It addressed my problems (initiating, asking someone for her contact info, etc.) right to the core. I'm learning so much and it’s a great group of women.  I’m really glad to be part of the community!

Terri T.

Age 52

As a new Academy member, I wanted to share how much I enjoyed participating in the recent groups and classes! I can’t wait to watch the recording of the class because there was so much information in it. Thanks so much for making this available to our community. 

Robbi

Age 34

The Academy is helping me practice meeting women and sharing myself. I am excited and look forward more group meetings. Also, I have already contact info and have been talking with several women from the group. The “From Conflict to Connection” class was also excellent.

Alexa S.

Age 60

Your Heart is Worth It. 

I hope reading this page has helped you develop more hope, understanding and clarity about your love life. Here's the thing:

Lesbians and queer women are courageous and powerful, and our relationships can be the very best relationships on the planet.

 

But because two women can bond so deeply and quickly, our relationships can also go bad fast -- if you don't choose a partner wisely, or don't have the skill, compassion and self-awareness to navigate conflicts when they arise.

 

Painful relationships are unfortunately common in our community. 

And over time, some women actually get scared of relationships because of bad experiences. But it doesn't have to be that way.

 

You deserve happy, healthy love (and great sex, too!) And you can learn to choose the right partner, and also be the right partner.

 

There aren't many places where women who love women can learn, other than the "school of hard knocks." That's why the Academy was born. We are here to support women who value growth. 

 

And meanwhile, you can have fun and make friends

with some amazing women!  

 

Dip your toe in the water with a Skills-Only Membership, get 3X more learning and connection with a full membership, or fully commit yourself to change with an Advanced/Roadmap Membership.

The choice is yours.

Free, Non-Official Community Offerings 

 

Some wonderful Academy members have volunteered to lead the free groups and classes below. Although they are not official Conscious Girlfriend Academy offerings, they are additional chances to meet, learn, have fun, and connect! All aspiring Conscious Girlfriends are welcome (Academy membership is not required.)   

 

All Community Offerings will meet at this Zoom link:

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83907388812 

 

Group Leader contact info is at the very bottom of this page.

FREE COMMUNITY OFFERINGS from Misha Safran in June:

 

Sunday, June 7th 11:00am-12:30pm (PST): Leapin' Limerence, Bat Girl!!! Part 1

 

      Monday, June 8th: 3:00pm-4:30pm (PST): Maneuvering through one's own Malicious Messaging Part 1

 

      Sunday, June 14th: 11:00am - 12:30pm (PST): "Leapin' Limerence, Bat Girl!!!" Part 2

 

      Monday, June 15th: 3:00pm-4:30pm (PST): Maneuvering through one's own Malicious Messaging Part 2

 

Open Mic -- come read your writing or play or sing your songs or??? to the CGA community! Thursday, June 25th from 4:30pm-7:30pm (PST)

 

FREE COMMUNITY OFFERINGS FROM LORI J:

 

Every Saturday 10:30-11:30 a.m. PDT

Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout Group 10:30am-11:30am 

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

Every Sunday 5:00-7:00 p.m. PDT

Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study Group

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

Misha Safran is a Live, Laugh & Love Transformational Coach. misha@safranconsulting.com

 

Lori J. can be reached at (619)990-3099.  

 

 

The events below were from May!

 

Group: SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy 5:30pm-7pm PST
with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy. We’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. Leave feeling lighter and more connected.​

SATURDAY, MAY 16

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout Group 10:30am-11:30am PST with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

SUNDAY, MAY 17

Class: Creating, Embracing and Maintaining Joy! 11:30am-1:00pm PST with Misha Safran

Do you find it hard to experience happiness daily? In this four-week group, we will join together with other Lesbian & Queer women to define what AUTHENTIC JOY can look like for you, to create an AUTHENTIC JOY practice and to discuss and celebrate with each other as we move through challenges AND embrace our AUTHENTIC JOY on a daily basis. There is a WhatsApp group which we use to support each other outside of class. ​WEEKLY

Group: Conscious Lesbian Loving and Dating Book Study 5:30pm-7:00pm PST with Lori J.

All lesbians and queer women interested in learning, refreshing and maintaining conscious loving and dating skills and practices are welcome. We will read the book, Conscious Lesbian Love and Dating together and share our personal experiences. If you are new to the group, we ask that you prepare by reading to the place in the book where we will begin reading each week. WEEKLY

MONDAY, MAY 18

Group: Destressify by JOYifying your Dating Process! 5:30pm - 7pm PST with Misha Safran & Adri 

Do you want dating to be more joyful and less stressful? Misha and Adri will take you through four weeks of tips, tools and even some fun and spice! Each week will include tips and tools with practice sessions in breakout rooms. Practice sessions will include asking for what you want, flirting, and maintaining healthy boundaries. Leave with some new tools and maybe some new dates ;)  ​WEEKLY

WEDNESDAY, MAY 20

Class: Super Beginners Cooking Class (Conscious Cooking) 9:30am-11am PST with Jessica (see description above for May 13)

1 hour Super Beginner Cooking Classes: First class in May will teach you how to cut, prepare and season vegetables so they cook quickly and don't end up plain, bland and/ or mushy! The second class will be more focused on easy soup & salad preparation specifically (and how easily you can learn doing this without any recipe). Knife skills will be briefly covered as well, video instructions will be sent after the class so you can practice at your own pace. If you can't make it to the class(es), you can request a replay via e-mail. NOTE: The classes will (partially) build on each other, it would be best to be at both if that's possible for you. Still, you will learn a lot if you're only able to attend 1 of the classes! :) Also - There's no need be in your kitchen or buy specific groceries for these classes. Put on comfortable pants, get yourself a cup of coffee/ tea/ your favorite beverage and simply take in this information. The goal is to show you how easy cooking can be and bringing you the confidence to start trying (more) things at home!

FRIDAY, MAY 22

Group: SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy 5:30pm-7pm PST
with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy. We’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. Leave feeling lighter and more connected.​

SATURDAY, MAY 23

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout Group 10:30am-11:30am PST with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

SUNDAY, MAY 24

Class: Creating, Embracing and Maintaining Joy! 11:30am-1:00pm PST with Misha Safran

Do you find it hard to experience happiness daily? In this four-week group, we will join together with other Lesbian & Queer women to define what AUTHENTIC JOY can look like for you, to create an AUTHENTIC JOY practice and to discuss and celebrate with each other as we move through challenges AND embrace our AUTHENTIC JOY on a daily basis. There is a WhatsApp group which we use to support each other outside of class. ​WEEKLY

Group: Conscious Lesbian Loving and Dating Book Study 5:30pm-7:00pm PST with Lori J.

All lesbians and queer women interested in learning, refreshing and maintaining conscious loving and dating skills and practices are welcome. We will read the book, Conscious Lesbian Love and Dating together and share our personal experiences. If you are new to the group, we ask that you prepare by reading to the place in the book where we will begin reading each week. WEEKLY

MONDAY, MAY 25

Group: Destressify by JOYifying your Dating Process! 5:30pm - 7pm PST with Misha Safran & Adri 

Do you want dating to be more joyful and less stressful? Misha and Adri will take you through four weeks of tips, tools and even some fun and spice! Each week will include tips and tools with practice sessions in breakout rooms. Practice sessions will include asking for what you want, flirting, and maintaining healthy boundaries. Leave with some new tools and maybe some new dates ;)  ​WEEKLY

WEDNESDAY, MAY 27

Group: Open Mic Talent night - 5:30pm-8:30pm PST

Each person will have 7 minutes or more depending on the size of the group! 

Do you have a performance talent you would like to share with the Conscious Girlfriend Community? Depending on how many people sign up we will have about 7 minutes each. Email misha@safranconsulting.com to sign up for a time slot.

FRIDAY, MAY 29

Group: SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy 5:30pm-7pm PST
with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy. We’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. Leave feeling lighter and more connected.​

SATURDAY, MAY 30

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout Group 10:30am-11:30am PST with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. 

SUNDAY, MAY 31

Group: Creating and Maintaining Joy, with Misha Safran

Do you find it hard to experience happiness daily? In this four-week group, we will join together with other Lesbian & Queer women to define what AUTHENTIC JOY can look like for you, to create an AUTHENTIC JOY practice and to discuss and celebrate with each other as we move through challenges AND embrace our AUTHENTIC JOY on a daily basis. There is a WhatsApp group which we use to support each other outside of class. ​

GROUP LEADER BIOS AND/OR CONTACT INFO

Misha Safran is a Live, Laugh & Love Transformational Coach. misha@safranconsulting.com

 

Jessica can be reached at vanthart.jessica@gmail.com or +31618588528 (Dutch cellphone number) Best for use with WhatsApp.

 

Adri Tucker can be reached at atucker2573@gmail.com

 

Jodi Mclaren can be reached at jodi@jodimclaren.com

 

Lori J. can be reached at (619)990-3099.  

 

Holly Hart can be reached at  1hollyhart8@gmail.com

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