• Members come from throughout the United States, as well as Canada, Europe, Mexico, Israel and elsewhere.
• Members range in age from their 20s through their 80s, but most are over 40.
• Some members are dating, or want to date; others aren't ready for a new relationship, but want more community and more skills.
• Many of our members have done a lot of personal growth work already; all are highly motivated to learn conscious lesbian dating and love skills.
• Some members are newly coming out; others have been out for decades, and everything in between.
• We are a warmly welcoming, intelligent and compassionate community for all self-identified women (and adjacent non-binary people) who love women, or want to! 

If you're like many of our members, you have a deep longing for a healthy, loving, trust-filled, supportive and passionate relationship, yet you're not sure how to find the right partner. In Academy classes you'll learn how to create a vision for your ideal relationship -- and build the skills to co-create your half of it. You'll learn how to date with clarity and confidence, how to recognize real compatibility (and not get fooled by chemistry or limerence, the "honeymoon stage"), how to communicate in ways that build emotional intimacy, and (if you choose) how to have fulfilling sex, too. Joining the Academy is like getting a gym membership for your romantic life! It gives you the community support and consistent education and practice you need, to become able to have the love life you want.  

Honestly, we used to sell a la carte classes, but we found it didn't give the same results. The Academy exists to help you gain and integrate the knowledge and skills to change your love life forever. That's an incredibly important and achievable goal, but it usually takes more than just watching a few classes to make it happen. It takes ongoing mentorship, support and practice -- and that's what you'll get by becoming a member.

We recommend joining the Academy for a year because 1) You get a big discount doing it that way. 2) Paying up front will motivate you to come to as many classes as you actually need, without having to second-guess yourself about each one. 3) Getting to know other members will be a big help in creating the love life you actually want. It's hard to do alone, and much easier when you're connected to like-minded women on similar journeys.   

Just like you, many of our members have done a lot of self-work -- yet it's rare for that work to specifically address the unique gifts and challenges of lesbian relationships. Therapy, 12-step, meditation, Landmark, and other kinds of growth and healing work are all incredibly valuable, yet lesbian dating and lesbian love requires certain highly specific understandings and skills which many people haven't found elsewhere -- and find in the Academy. Plus, along with mentorship and support, we offer opportunities to practice what you learn.   

Yes! We've got Conscious Girlfriend Certified Coaches! Check them out here. Academy Director Ruth Schwartz also offers a small number of coaching packages here. CGA coaches have received the world's best training in the particular challenges of lesbian coming out, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships, lesbian attachment, lesbian sex and lesbian breakups -- and their support is very powerful. 

However, unless your money and time are unlimited, we strongly encourage you to join the Academy too. Our classes cover life-changing information in a more budget-friendly way. Classes and group coaching are a more efficient way to receive information, while getting the benefit of seeing and hearing like-minded women describe their journeys, ask questions, and receive group coaching. 

Yes! We are committed to financial accessibility and justice. Please check out our Scholarship Guidelines here and then email us at ruth@consciousgirlfriend to apply. Scholarships are available for Community-level membership, and for most of our classes. We aren't able to offer scholarships for Supporting-level memberships.