Butch / Femme / Stud / Boi / Grrl / Genderqueer / Trans / Lesbian / Queer / Gay / Bisexual / Pansexual… What, if anything, do these terms mean for you? Why do many butch or stud lesbians end up transitioning to male? What does that mean for lesbians who prefer masculine-of-center women - or for masculine-of-center women who start wondering about their own gender identity? What changes and what stays the same when someone transitions gender? How can you embrace your own gender identity and its complexities, whatever they are?

An amazing evening with special guest Kat Kolegas, an expert flirt (and Somatica-trained dating coach) who will join us for this fun and empowering group! Kat makes flirting feel easy, natural and fun. She’s also an expert on consent.

A powerful, heart-opening and spirit-connecting workshop with special guests Cindy Manit and Hannah Idalia, founders of Prioritize Pleasure: An Urban Ritual for Queer Womxn. This will be an excursion into self-acceptance, sexual healing and expansion.

Lesbian breakups can be the most painful partings on the planet. Whether your breakup was recent or long ago, learn why the hurt and anger sometimes last so long, and how to finally move on – and receive and give support to other women in that process.

It’s painful to be blocked from your full erotic self, yet most of us live out our whole lives that way. Megan is passionate about helping you change that! Whether you’re blocked by internalized homophobia, shame, trauma, body image or just never having had a good lesbian sex ed class (who has?!), this class will help you begin inhabiting your erotic self in a whole new way.

What makes someone a good kisser for you? How can you ask someone to touch you harder or softer, faster or slower? Is there a way you wish someone would go down on you, but no one ever does? Do you ever worry that it takes you too long to come, or feel like you have to perform or fake it? How do you bring toys, fantasies or props into the mix, if you want them? And what if you don’t actually know what you want – how can you discover more about your own pleasure? We’ll explore these and other hot topics.

Some women come into Conscious Girlfriend really wanting a partner, and just needing a bit more clarity, skills or confidence in order to find her. Often, they end up in new relationships quite quickly. Others come in weighed-down by old hurt, blocks and negative beliefs. If you’re in this category, you may truly want a partner, but you just can't ever seem to find her, and instead, you may find yourself having experiences that reinforce your pain. In this workshop, Anna will help you begin to understand and shift those underground forces and liberate yourself to be truly ready for love. 

Learning to recognize what you feel when you feel it is actually an advanced Conscious Girlfriend skill. No matter how well you know yourself, there's always more to know - and the more fully and compassionately you understand your feelings, the better all your relationships will go, including your 24/7 relationship with yourself. This class will focus on helping you learn more about your emotions, and support others to do the same.

Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

Buddhist, Christian, pagan, Jew, meditator, mystic, energy worker, Muslim, Sufi, “spiritual but not religious,” yogi or just person who feels spiritually connected to the natural world? Come meet like-minded women and share spiritual perspectives and practices in a heart-opening environment.

What causes that spark? What can you do if it’s not there with someone great – but overpowers you with someone who is clearly not right for you in other ways? Is physical attraction always visual? Does chemistry equal sexual compatibility? What is the relationship between physical, mental and emotional chemistry? What about “friend chemistry,” or good conversational flow and rapport? Learn more about how chemistry actually works for you and for other women, and how to keep it from leading you headlong into the wrong relationships. 

What makes sex mind-blowing or mediocre? How does sex change after menopause? Can your sex drive actually be too high? Why isn’t there a female Viagra? Why do most women want less sex when they’re stressed, but a few of us actually want more? What really makes someone a great lover (or a lousy lover?) Which sexual theme is your favorite – passionate, romantic, dominant or spiritual? Is it okay not to like oral sex? Does orgasm really matter? What if your partner fantasizes about someone else while she’s with you? Join us for discussion of these and other burning topics. A no-holds-barred conversation!

A follow-up to the class earlier today! You’ll have a chance to debrief with women in small groups, and explore more about how you tick, sexually, as well as hear other experiences. What constitutes sexual compatibility for you? Which sexual skills do you personally want to improve (hint: this could just mean knowing more about what you want and asking for it. It could also mean letting go of performance-driven sex…)

None of us grew up in a culture that celebrated healthy female-female sexuality, or (most) female bodies. Today you’ll have a chance to talk about how cultural repression, abuse, racism, body-shaming, gender-normative stereotypes and other factors may have messed with your mind. Together we’ll co-create a compassionate, healing, open environment that helps you release shame and celebrate yourself and your sexuality. 

Your “attachment style” is what often leads to repeated painful dynamics in relationships, whether you’re the person who wants more closeness, or needs more space. How does brain science explain why abandonment or engulfment (“being taken over”) fears affect us so deeply? Why does it sometimes seem as if “opposites attract” around this painful issue? And how can you create more harmony inside yourself and in your relationships?

Tonight’s breakout groups will give you a chance to further explore the questions brought up by the class earlier today. Gain more insight into how attachment style plays out inside of you and in your relationships, and learn from other womens’ experience, too.

How do you adapt to a new sexual orientation, culture and identity? Where do you fit? How do you meet women? Is not having a “lesbian relationship pedigree” a problem? How do you come out to others in your life, and navigate their responses? Can you be a great lover even if you lack experience? (Btw, the answer is YES!) As a “newbie,” what are your burning questions and secret fears? Join us for mutual illumination and support. (And if you've been out for a long time and just want to support the newbies, you can attend, too.)  

In this class, we’ll dive deep into relationship researcher John Gottman’s findings about the “four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” – behaviors almost certain to lead to unhappiness and breakups – and their antidotes. You’ll gain more understanding of why good women often unintentionally create relationship disasters, and what to do instead to create more harmony, affection, intimacy, trust and ease.

A chance for frank, compassionate breakout group conversation with other women, so you can identify your growth edges and practice new skills to avoid “the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” and cultivate more harmony, affection, trust, intimacy and ease.

What’s different about dating and looking for love when you’re over 50? What do you need and want at this stage of your life, and how can you bring it into being? What blocks, fears and old beliefs do you need to release in order to be able to find healthy love – potentially for the rest of your life? Potential topics include: dealing with income disparities, health issues, adult children, and more.

Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

A chance to dive deeper in small-group conversations about all the issues brought up in today’s class. What red flags do you most need to watch for now, in yourself or others? When can a red flag actually turn yellow or even green when you know someone better – and what’s truly a deal-breaker?

Buddhist, Christian, pagan, Jew, meditator, mystic, energy worker, Muslim, Sufi, “spiritual but not religious,” yogi or just person who feels spiritually connected to the natural world? Come meet like-minded women and share spiritual perspectives and practices in a heart-opening environment.

We’ll cover several frameworks for understanding your core desires, including your Core Erotic Theme, your Erotic Blueprint, and your “hottest sexual movie.” Learn to mine past great (and not-so-great) sexual experiences and fantasies for information to help you recognize and celebrate your own unique turn-on map.

A chance to debrief in a compassionate, shame-free, curious environment! Learn more about other womens’ experience and desires, and share your own to whatever extent you’re comfortable.

How do you define your lesbian or queer identity? What does it mean for your attractions? If you’re more butch or stud than she is, does that mean you have to initiate? What about femmes who like femmes, or butches who like butches, or women who like both – or neither? What if you’re “butch in the streets and femme in the sheets,” or vice versa? (And what does that even mean?) Share what’s true for you and learn more about how all this works for other women.

Many women struggle to ask for a phone number or suggest a get-together – so often, neither person does, even when both are interested! Many women also struggle to say No to invitations they don’t want. How can you learn to be both clear and compassionate? How can you build the emotional resilience to make a first move? How can you know whether your get-together is or would be a date? What does “dating” mean anyway? What if she likes you more than you like her – or vice versa? We’ll tackle these rich questions and support each other to develop more ease and clarity.

How do you adapt to a new sexual orientation, culture and identity? Where do you fit? How do you meet women? Is not having a “lesbian relationship pedigree” a problem? How do you come out to others in your life, and navigate their responses? Can you be a great lover even if you lack experience? (Btw, the answer is YES!) As a “newbie,” what are your burning questions and secret fears? Join us for mutual illumination and support. And if you've been out for a long time and just want to offer support to the newbies, you're welcome, too. 

How do you ask someone to touch you harder or softer, faster or slower? How do you ask someone to speak more slowly or loudly so that you can hear her? How do you let someone know you’re wanting empathy from her, not advice? What if you don’t like the way she kisses? Learn and practice how to  make clear, specific requests in a way that helps someone hear and respond.

Learn how to emotionally, mentally an energetically let go of past partner(s) and make peace with the past, even if her behavior is or was completely unreasonable. Letting go and moving on with clarity and compassion – especially for yourself – is an inside job. We’ll talk about how to get there.

Whether your partner died, left you, or you left her, it’s often hard to move on. This is a chance for compassionate sharing in breakout groups, learning from other womens’ experiences, and being witnessed in ways that help you make peace with the past and embrace the present.

In so many relationships, one person feels abandoned or like she’s not getting enough connection, while the other person protests, “No matter what I do, it’s not enough.” What causes this difference, and what can you do to skillfully navigate the pain and confusion it causes? We’ll discuss how to co-create an autonomy-intimacy balance that works for both of you, and also how to understand and work with the painful triggers this issue brings up.

Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!