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The Intelligent, Compassionate Learning Community For Lesbians++

Welcoming All Women Who Love Women, Or Want To, And Adjacent Non-Binary People 

Single lesbians (and couples, too:)

Learn to create the love life you want. 

In warm, growth-oriented community.

Can you relate to any of these lesbian challenges?         

  • You're single, and you don't want to stay that way forever -- but you also don't want to get hurt.

    You don't want to settle, or to have a bad relationship again. But you know life would feel sweeter if you got to share it. You wonder if the right woman for you is even out there, and whether you can trust your picker. 

  • You're not sure how to date, or how to date women. 

    Lesbians often skip dating. We just feel a spark and dive right in. But you've reached a point in your life where you don't want to do that again. You're ready to do this thing right.  

  • You've gone through a painful breakup, and need help healing.    

    Lesbian breakups can be shattering. You need help from people who understand that pain, who can help you understand what happened and reclaim your life.

  • You're in a relationship, and sometimes struggling -- or you just want to make it better.      

    The relationships that matter most to us always feel hard sometimes, and when that happens, you need skills. We teach the most comprehensive lesbian relationship classes in the world. 

  • You're over 40 -- maybe over 50, or 60, or 70 -- and dating and love are different for you now. 

    Your needs and priorities have changed, and so has the world. You wonder if it's too late for you, but you also know yourself better than ever before, and want help finding a partner to be with for the rest of your life.  

  • You know online dating sites are the way to meet people, but you don't like them.  

    You wonder: Where do I even start? Which app(s)? What should I say in my profile? How can I know who's real and who's not? What are the "rules" of app messaging and dating? How can I keep my heart safe? Or maybe you tried online dating, and you were missing key information to make it work for you. 

  • You'd welcome having more growth-oriented lesbian friends. 

    It's a straight world out there. You've got room in your life for compassionate lesbian, bi and queer friends who really "get" you, who see and value you as you are, and can support your growth. 

Introducing: How To Crack The Code 

Working with thousands of women has shown us

the three things you need

in order to find the love you want, and keep it strong:

  • Lesbian-centric relationship education and mentorship. 

    You don't know what you don't know! You need expert help to identify where you've been going wrong, and understand what changes to make to create the new outcomes you want.

  • Support, friendship and community.

    As lesbians, we need each other. In the Academy, you'll feel supported and connected as you learn life- and love-changing new skills. We are not a dating site, but yes, some women do find love in the Academy, too. And almost everyone who comes says, "It helps so much to know I'm not alone."

  • Practice, practice, practice. 

    Whatever you already do well in your life, it probably took trial and error to get good at it! Healthy dating and love skills are the same way. If you want something different than you've had, you've got to do something different than you've done. You can't integrate new skills just from reading, taking classes or going to therapy. You need to actually practice in a supportive atmosphere.   

That's why we developed the Academy.  

 

Single and looking, or single and unsure, we've got your back. 

"I just need to find the right woman, and then it'll all work out." Have you ever thought that? Yet it rarely works that way, and your heart is too important to risk. Our classes will support you in finding the love you really want, and keeping it strong. It's not luck or chance, it's skills, and you'll build them here!   

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Conscious Lesbian Elders Weekly Meetings   

Over 64? Meet like-minded women in our weekly Conscious Lesbian Elders Support & Connection group. Our members are just coming out, longtime lesbians, and everything in between, and we share from our hearts about aging, health, meaning and joy, dating and love at any age, and more.    

Learn More About The Conscious Lesbian Elders Group

Recorded classes on everything you need.    

Want to rewrite your relationship scripts, get better at bedroom communication, heal from a breakup, learn how to be and find the right partner, hack online dating, or learn how to date over 50? Those are just a few topics in the 80+ recorded classes available to Academy members.

View Our On-Demand Classes Here

 

Just coming out? We're the community for you.     

All of our classes welcome women who are just coming out, along with long-time lesbians, bisexual women, queer women and adjacent non-binary people. Becoming an Academy member is the perfect way to better understand your new identity, as well as gain the skills you need for the life you want, while making friends with warm, accepting lesbians. There's no biphobia or bias against new lesbians here.

See Membership Options and Sign Up Here

But Does It Work?

Hear From Some Of Our Participants:

Pierce

When Pierce came to the Academy, she felt isolated, had never felt comfortable with online dating, and hadn't dated in many years. But the Academy changed her life. First, she made many friends. Then, after taking our Find True Love Online class, she joined an online dating site, met someone special, and is having a relationship that lights her up. 

Shayna 

Although Shayna had been out for decades, she, like most of us, had never had a chance to learn healthy lesbian dating skills. The Academy filled a need she hadn't even known she had. First she found community, and then she started creating more of it by starting our Conscious Lesbian Elders program for women age 64+. She's also in a happy new dating relationship.  

Michelle 

Michelle is a late-in-life lesbian who started dating women just six years ago, after a long marriage to a man and raising three beautiful children. She's now in a happy relationship with a woman, and credits the skills she learned in the Academy for helping her get there. 

Rachel + Pat:

"You create such a safe container in which to explore sexual identity and connection... and honor all the different ways that humans show up or choose not to show up. That is FREAKIN' AWESOME MODELING!"

R+P

Lesbian Erotic Liberation Class

Ellen

"The community is a beautiful thing, critical to me & to so many of us, post-Covid, with my first & not very healthy relationship since my wife died 3 years ago. I’ve gratefully gotten involved w/ CGA for the information & support waiting for me here." 

 

Ellen

Academy Member

Alexandra

"It was an enormous pleasure to participate in this course. I learned so much about myself, about romantic relationships between women, leaving behind old beliefs that don't serve me... I never imagined this would be so deep and so healing!" 

Alexandra

Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love Class

We offer different membership options, so everyone can join us.

Supporting

Membership

Monthly or Yearly 

$149/month, 

or save $691 and pay just $1097 for a full year.

  • Our best value and most comprehensive membership! 

     

    ✔ Access our monthly intimate group coaching with Academy director Ruth Schwartz.

     

    ✔ Weekly live classes, monthly masterclasses, and more.

     

    ✔ All of our video recordings, including these special sets:

    Find True Love Online (12 weeks, $597 value)

    Coming Out & Coming Home (6 weeks, $349 value), Attachment Healing Intensive (3 modules, $199 value), Lesbian Bed Life (8 classes, $249 value)

     

    ✔ Build community with our buddy groups and private Facebook group. 

Sign Up Here

Community

Membership 

Monthly or Yearly

$99/month, 

or save $491 and pay just $697 for a year.

  • ✔ Weekly live classes and groups

     

    ✔ All Core-level video recordings, including the 12-week  Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love. 

     

    ✔ Build community with our buddy groups and private Facebook group.

     

    ❌ Does not include the Find True Love Online, Coming Out and Coming Home, Attachment Healing Intensive, Lesbian Bed Life series

     

    ❌ Does not include monthly group coaching

     

    ❌ Does not include Conscious Lesbian Elders group

     

Sign Up Here

Two-Week Trial of Community Membership

$10/2 weeks

  • ✔ Two-week trial membership rebills at $99/month. Cancel any time. 

     

    ✔ Weekly live classes and groups

     

    ✔ All Core-level video recordings, including the 12-week  Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love. 

     

    ✔ Build community with our buddy groups and private Facebook group.

     

    ❌ Does not include the following: Find True Love Online, Coming Out and Coming Home, Attachment Healing Intensive, Lesbian Bed Life series

     

    ❌ Does not include monthly group coaching

     

    ❌ Does not include Conscious Lesbian Elders group

     

Try Us Out

Conscious Lesbian Elders Support & Connection 

 

$49-149/month

  • ✔ Weekly live connection and support gatherings for lesbians++ with 64 or more years of life experience.

     

    Members include longtime lesbians, women who are just coming out, and everyone in between. We are warmly welcoming and open-hearted!

     

    Join by the month at an affordable sliding scale. 

Learn About Our Elders Program Here

Dorothy

The program was amazing!  It really helped me to own my sexual identity and feel less self-conscious and embarrassed about coming out in my fifties. It was refreshing and comforting to meet others in the same boat.  The ladies in the academy are wonderful… many possibilities to make friends. Thank you so much for supporting me on this journey.  I will definitely recommend it to others. 

Dorothy,

Academy Member


Rebecca

I can honestly say I couldn't be happier because I have never been this happy before.  My new GF and I have our challenges here and there, but those become opportunities to take pause with each other in order to learn and grow and arrive at a deeper level of connection.  No fights, tension, stress... I will always be a grateful and devout follower of what I gained through you, CG and its community.  I am living proof that when I got myself good and ready, there she was. 

Rebecca,

Academy Member


Annie

I cannot express how valuable the Roadmap class was to me and for all I have continued to learn through The Academy and all the wonderful and beautiful women I have met there. My 2 very good friends have noticed and made wonderful comments to me regarding how much they can tell that I have grown over the past several months.  I am so happy that I have the skills to be able to put to use when needed!

Annie,

Academy Member


Become A Monthly or Annual Community Member
Become A Supporting Member And Have It All!

You've Got Questions, We've Got Classes.  

Community Members Get Access to Our Core Recordings.

Supporting Members Get Access To The Full Archives! 

Lesbian Dating Classes

These are just a few of the 50+ recorded classes available free

to all Academy Members. 

Dating: Red, Green

and Yellow Flags

  • Learn why sometimes a red flag can turn yellow or even green -- but sometimes a green flag can change color, too.   

  • Gain the clarity to listen to your intuition, assess someone new, and also stay curious and open. 

90-Minute Video Class

Lesbian Dating

Deep Dive

  • How to know if you're actually ready to date, and what to do if you're not -- or if she's not.

  • Learn how to build a solid foundation whether you're local or long-distance, and what "friends first" and compatibility really mean.

  • And, just for fun, learn how to flirt, too...without committing!  

90-Minute Video Class

Wise Lesbian Dating Fundamentals

  • You've been around the block and you're ready to learn to do this thing differently -- but where do you begin? What does it even mean to "date," vs. just dive in?

  • Learn what to do when you feel a spark, and also when you don't, so you can actually find long-term love.

90-Minute Video Class

Releasing Blocks

to Love

  • Why sometimes that 67-point checklist actually keeps you from love -- and how to focus on what really matters in seeking a partner. 

  • Learn how to become someone who actually finds love, rather than keeps on looking.  

90-Minute Video Class

Conscious Lesbian Connection & Dating

  • Learn how to make every date a good date while also dating with a clear vision -- and learn when and how to discuss that vision without scaring someone off. 

  • Strengthen your ability to be yourself on dates, while also gaining key information about compatibility.

90-Minute Video Class

Anatomy of A Lesbian Heartbreak

  • The truth about why so many relationships start out amazing, yet fall apart in less than a year -- and how to prevent this heartbreak. 

  • Learn how to stop getting derailed by a sense of scarcity, or attractions to women who aren't good for you. 

90-Minute Video Class

True Compatibility

  • Compatibility is key to a long-term relationship, but it's not intuitive. Learn the most  important factor (which probably isn't even on your radar!)

  • Do you ever want different, contradictory things? Learn how to become more compatible with yourself, so you can find a love that works for the complex being you are.

90-Minute Video Class

Preparing For A Healthy Relationship

  • Are you stuck in old stories or unrealistic fantasies about love? Learn how to create a nuanced and updated vision for the relationship you want. 

  • Build the skills and develop the mindset for a happy, lasting intimate relationship -- before you find her!

90-Minute Video Class

Rewrite Your

Relationship Scripts

  • Do you have painful patterns you replay again and again, like trying to "rescue" women who need help, falling for unavailable women, or over-giving and then feeling resentful?

  • Learn what it really takes to transform these dysfunctional "scripts," and create the new reality you truly want.  

90-Minute Video Class 

Lesbian Bed Life

Intelligent, frank, compassionate lesbian sex ed you won't find elsewhere.

These classes are available free to Supporting Academy Members.

Bedroom Communication

The secret to being able to rock each other's worlds in bed is right here, in these empowering sexual communication tools.

 Lesbian Bed Life Fundamentals 

Want a deeply fulfilling sex life? This 5-video class gives you a comprehensive lesbian erotic education. 

Oral Sex & Energy Sex

One of our all-time best sellers, this class is a must-watch whether you're newly out or a lifelong lesbian. Viewers call it liberating and life-changing. 

Welcome To The Rest Of Your Life. 

I'm so glad you found us.

 

I'm Dr. Ruth Schwartz, director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy. The Academy exists to help all lesbians++ create the dating, love and sex lives we want and deserve. Whether you're just coming out or have been out for a long time, our programs help you date in smart-for-your-heart ways... break the cycle of heartbreaking relationships... find lasting love... get support with coming out... and if you're over age 64, connect with other conscious lesbian elders... and more!  

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FAQs  

What kinds of women join the Academy?

 
  • Members come from throughout the United States, as well as Canada, Europe, Mexico, Israel and elsewhere.
  • Members range in age from their 20s through their 80s, but most are over 40.
  • Some members are dating, or want to date; others aren't ready for a new relationship, but want more community and more skills.
  • Many of our members have done a lot of personal growth work already; all are highly motivated to learn conscious lesbian dating and love skills.
  • Some members are newly coming out; others have been out for decades, and everything in between.
  • We are a warmly welcoming, intelligent and compassionate community for all self-identified women (and adjacent non-binary people) who love women, or want to! 

How will a monthly or yearly Academy membership help me change my love life? 

If you're like many of our members, you have a deep longing for a healthy, loving, trust-filled, supportive and passionate relationship, yet you're not sure how to find the right partner. In Academy classes you'll learn how to create a vision for your ideal relationship -- and build the skills to co-create your half of it. You'll learn how to date with clarity and confidence, how to recognize real compatibility (and not get fooled by chemistry or limerence, the "honeymoon stage"), how to communicate in ways that build emotional intimacy, and (if you choose) how to have fulfilling sex, too. Joining the Academy is like getting a gym membership for your romantic life! It gives you the community support and consistent education and practice you need, to become able to have the love life you want.  

Can I just buy the classes I want, instead of joining the Academy? 

Honestly, we used to sell a la carte classes, but we found it didn't give the same results. The Academy exists to help you gain and integrate the knowledge and skills to change your love life forever. That's an incredibly important and achievable goal, but it usually takes more than just watching a few classes to make it happen. It takes ongoing mentorship, support and practice -- and that's what you'll get by becoming a member.

 

We recommend joining the Academy for a year because 1) You get a big discount doing it that way. 2) Paying up front will motivate you to come to as many classes as you actually need, without having to second-guess yourself about each one. 3) Getting to know other members will be a big help in creating the love life you actually want. It's hard to do alone, and much easier when you're connected to like-minded women on similar journeys.   

I've already done years of therapy and/or other personal growth work. How will the Academy be different?  

Just like you, many of our members have done a lot of self-work -- yet it's rare for that work to specifically address the unique gifts and challenges of lesbian relationships. Therapy, 12-step, meditation, Landmark, and other kinds of growth and healing work are all incredibly valuable, yet lesbian dating and lesbian love requires certain highly specific understandings and skills which many people haven't found elsewhere -- and find in the Academy. Plus, along with mentorship and support, we offer opportunities to practice what you learn.   

Do you offer private coaching? 

Yes! We've got Conscious Girlfriend Certified Coaches! Check them out here. Academy Director Ruth Schwartz also offers a small number of coaching packages here. CGA coaches have received the world's best training in the particular challenges of lesbian coming out, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships, lesbian attachment, lesbian sex and lesbian breakups -- and their support is very powerful. 

 

However, unless your money and time are unlimited, we strongly encourage you to join the Academy too. Our classes cover life-changing information in a more budget-friendly way. Classes and group coaching are a more efficient way to receive information, while getting the benefit of seeing and hearing like-minded women describe their journeys, ask questions, and receive group coaching. 

Meet Your Mentor: Conscious Girlfriend Academy Director

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

  • Author of eight books, including the Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love.
  • Certified sex coach through the Somatica Institute (learn more about sex coaching here)
  • Trained with Gay & Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving
  • Former professor at Ashland University, Mills College, CSU-Fresno and five other colleges and universities
  • A proud member of the LGBTQ community since 1982
  • Transparent, compassionate and committed to walking her talk
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