What causes that spark? What can you do if it’s not there with someone great – but overpowers you with someone who is clearly not right for you in other ways? Is physical attraction always visual? Does chemistry equal sexual compatibility? What is the relationship between physical, mental and emotional chemistry? What about “friend chemistry,” or good conversational flow and rapport? Learn more about how chemistry actually works for you and for other women, and how to keep it from leading you headlong into the wrong relationships. 

What makes sex mind-blowing or mediocre? How does sex change after menopause? Can your sex drive actually be too high? Why isn’t there a female Viagra? Why do most women want less sex when they’re stressed, but a few of us actually want more? What really makes someone a great lover (or a lousy lover?) Which sexual theme is your favorite – passionate, romantic, dominant or spiritual? Is it okay not to like oral sex? Does orgasm really matter? What if your partner fantasizes about someone else while she’s with you? Join us for discussion of these and other burning topics. A no-holds-barred conversation!

A follow-up to the class earlier today! You’ll have a chance to debrief with women in small groups, and explore more about how you tick, sexually, as well as hear other experiences. What constitutes sexual compatibility for you? Which sexual skills do you personally want to improve (hint: this could just mean knowing more about what you want and asking for it. It could also mean letting go of performance-driven sex…)

None of us grew up in a culture that celebrated healthy female-female sexuality, or (most) female bodies. Today you’ll have a chance to talk about how cultural repression, abuse, racism, body-shaming, gender-normative stereotypes and other factors may have messed with your mind. Together we’ll co-create a compassionate, healing, open environment that helps you release shame and celebrate yourself and your sexuality. 

Your “attachment style” is what often leads to repeated painful dynamics in relationships, whether you’re the person who wants more closeness, or needs more space. How does brain science explain why abandonment or engulfment (“being taken over”) fears affect us so deeply? Why does it sometimes seem as if “opposites attract” around this painful issue? And how can you create more harmony inside yourself and in your relationships?

Tonight’s breakout groups will give you a chance to further explore the questions brought up by the class earlier today. Gain more insight into how attachment style plays out inside of you and in your relationships, and learn from other womens’ experience, too.

How do you adapt to a new sexual orientation, culture and identity? Where do you fit? How do you meet women? Is not having a “lesbian relationship pedigree” a problem? How do you come out to others in your life, and navigate their responses? Can you be a great lover even if you lack experience? (Btw, the answer is YES!) As a “newbie,” what are your burning questions and secret fears? Join us for mutual illumination and support. (And if you've been out for a long time and just want to support the newbies, you can attend, too.)  

In this class, we’ll dive deep into relationship researcher John Gottman’s findings about the “four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” – behaviors almost certain to lead to unhappiness and breakups – and their antidotes. You’ll gain more understanding of why good women often unintentionally create relationship disasters, and what to do instead to create more harmony, affection, intimacy, trust and ease.

A chance for frank, compassionate breakout group conversation with other women, so you can identify your growth edges and practice new skills to avoid “the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” and cultivate more harmony, affection, trust, intimacy and ease.

What’s different about dating and looking for love when you’re over 50? What do you need and want at this stage of your life, and how can you bring it into being? What blocks, fears and old beliefs do you need to release in order to be able to find healthy love – potentially for the rest of your life? Potential topics include: dealing with income disparities, health issues, adult children, and more. By the way, younger women are welcome to attend, too. 

Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

What is a red flag while dating? What do you do if you notice someone else's red flags -- and/or if you are aware of your own? What can turn a red flag yellow, or even green? How do you know when you're actually compatible -- and what IS compatibility, really? We'll discuss these topics and others crucial to the dating process!

A chance to dive deeper in small-group conversations about all the issues brought up in today’s class. What red flags do you most need to watch for now, in yourself or others? What is truly a deal-breaker, and what isn't -- and why? 

Buddhist, Christian, pagan, Jew, meditator, mystic, energy worker, Muslim, Sufi, “spiritual but not religious,” yogi or just person who feels spiritually connected to the natural world? Come meet like-minded women and share spiritual perspectives and practices in a heart-opening environment.

How do you initiate getting to know someone better -- without feeling like you're putting your whole life on the line? How do you connect more authentically in the moment, whether or not you want to make or accept any invitations for connection in the future? How can you hear No without feeling rejected, or say No without making someone else feel rejected? How can you stay in your body while interacting with someone whom you find interesting or attractive? Special guest KAT KOLEGAS will be back for this session, which means it will be fun and experiential!

How can you know if someone is interested in you? How can you express interest in her, without feeling too vulnerable? How can you clarify whether you're on a "date date" or a "friend date?" What if you reach out to someone and she doesn't respond -- or, someone reaches out to you and you don't know what to do or say? What kinds of practice do you need to feel more confident, comfortable and free in these arenas? Share your questions, challenges and experiences with other women in compassionate, curious environment! 

How is the Covid-19 pandemic affecting your life, and your desire for connection, romance and/or sex? What kinds of support do you need? How can you use the support of this community to help you live well, even with all the unpredictability and stressors we all face right now? Whether you're single, in a new relationship, or in an established relationship, what do these times require of you, and how can you cultivate those skills? This is a chance to share openly in a compassionate, loving environment. 

Even a great relationship can get wrecked if one or both women don't know how to ask for what they want and need -- and/or don't know how to say No when they need to. And what's the difference between a want and need, anyway? What if you work really hard to state what you need, but the other person still can't or won't give it to you? What makes it so hard to ask for something -- and is there any way it can get easier? Learn the most effective ways to make an ask, and the most connection-building ways of saying No (as well as the body signals that tell you that you need to.) So many women keep themselves single because of not knowing how to work with boundaries and requests. So, come learn! 

There ARE effective, connection building ways to make requests, respond to requests, and set boundaries. But it takes plenty of practice -- so we'll do three breakout groups to give you a chance to to learn! PLEASE ATTEND THE EARLIER CLASS FOR BACKGROUND INFO BEFORE COMING TO THIS GROUP. 

How can you actually know what you feel, want and need? How can you respond to someone else's feeling, want or need? Learn about how to build both your A from the CATCH Acronym -- in other words, how to be "Aware of what you feel, when you feel it" -- and also the T, or how to "Tolerate your emotions without blowing up, shutting down or self-medicating." We'll talk about various scenarios that make it hard to know what you feel, or hard to listen to what someone else feels, and practice ways to become more emotionally literate and empathetic. 

Learn how to emotionally, mentally an energetically let go of past partner(s) and make peace with the past, even if her behavior is or was completely unreasonable. Letting go and moving on with clarity and compassion – especially for yourself – is an inside job. We’ll talk about how to get there.

Whether your partner died, left you, or you left her, it’s often hard to move on. This is a chance for compassionate sharing in breakout groups, learning from other womens’ experiences, and being witnessed in ways that help you make peace with the past and embrace the present.

In so many relationships, one person feels abandoned or like she’s not getting enough connection, while the other person protests, “No matter what I do, it’s not enough.” What causes this difference, and what can you do to skillfully navigate the pain and confusion it causes? We’ll discuss how to co-create an autonomy-intimacy balance that works for both of you, and also how to understand and work with the painful triggers this issue brings up.

Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!