Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating and Love

The Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian/Queer

Dating & Lasting Love

Live On Zoom Worldwide: January 24-April 11, 2026, 12 Saturdays, 10 a.m.-12 p.m. Pacific Time

This class has started already, but you can join us partway through, and catch up via the replays!

Otherwise, you'll have to wait a whole year.

Why the Roadmap? Because lesbian love is different.

There's truth behind the lesbian joke about bringing a U-Haul on the second date. Two women together do bond more quickly and intensely.

Our deep capacity for intimacy can make lesbian relationships the best relationships on the planet.

Yet it can also cause problems. Studies show lesbians divorce 3X more often than other couples.

The truth is, a deeper connection requires more skills, so you can steer clear of red flags, recognize true compatibility, and keep your love strong.

Lesbian and queer relationships often start strong and end in disaster. It doesn't have to be that way. Learn to prevent heartbreak, date wisely and love well. The Roadmap will teach you how.

The Roadmap is the comprehensive dating and love course

designed by lesbians, for lesbians.*

Your heart deserves it.

*Warmly welcoming all self-identified women and adjacent non-binary people who love women, or want to.

Longtime or just coming out, queer, sapphic, wlw, gay, bisexual, trans, sexually fluid...you belong here.

The Roadmap Is For You If...

You want to know how to do this lesbian

dating and love thing right.

Whether you've been out for decades or are new to dating women, you've faced plenty of heartache. Yet the deep desire to love and be loved has fueled you, and given you courage.

No matter how many hard experiences you've had, that desire is still alive, because it's essential to who you are.

The Roadmap Course will help you honor that desire

so you can find and create the love you deserve.

Lesbian dating feels daunting.

Many lesbians say, "I've never really dated. I just felt a spark and then we were in a relationship."

Others haven't dated in decades, or have never dated women.

At this point in your life, you don't want to waste time in the wrong relationship any more. You don't want to risk heartbreak. And you don't want to stay single forever, either.

The good news is, it really is possible to learn how to meet women as kind, caring, and open to growth as you are. To find out if you're both committed and compatible, before you risk your heart.

And to build a loving, connected relationship that can support you through the tough times, and sweeten every day of your life.

The Roadmap Course will teach you how.

If creating lasting love has been hard for you,

you're not alone.

Lesbian relationships are magical... but our breakups are shattering.

After a relationship that started out amazing and then fell apart, it's easy to start mistrusting yourself, other women, and love itself.

You wonder:

"Do relationships really have to be so hard?"

"Is the right woman for me even out there?"

"Is it too late for me?"

The Roadmap Course will restore your faith in love

and teach you how to find and cultivate

long-term compatibility and happiness.

Conscious Girlfriend Academy Director Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D., beside one of her favorite rivers.

"I don't need a class. I just need a conscious girlfriend."

A lot of women say that, and I thought that, too, for a long time. I saw myself as fully available and a good communicator. I didn't understand why my partners weren't the same way.

It was so frustrating! It felt like my love life was in the hands of fate. I had no control over whether I would ever meet the right person, or if she was even out there at all.

But once I dove deeply into studying lesbian dating and love, I realized how many blocks, barriers and problematic patterns I had, which had been standing in my way.

And after I realized that I was the common denominator in all my relationships, I realized that there were things I could do differently to create an entirely different outcome -- and gained the power to transform my relationship destiny.

If you're not having the love life you want, you can change that.

The Roadmap Course puts the power back in your hands.

New to lesbian life?

We'll give you a warm welcome,

along with the help you need.

Many later-in-life lesbians say, "My relationships with men didn't make me happy, but they were easier. I'm finally living my authentic self, but it's hard."

You need and deserve to know the secrets of successful lesbian dating and love. And we know you've got no time to waste.

Unlike many other programs, our classes include women who've been out for decades as well as those who are just coming out, creating a far richer learning environment.

Not Ready To Date?

That's great.

Some women in the class are actively dating. Others know they've got some work to do before dating again. Some aren't sure they ever want another relationship.

The Roadmap Course honors you where you are, and helps you

gain clarity for the future.

Here's How The Roadmap Works

This comprehensive 12-week course synthesizes cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology,

attachment theory, somatic trauma healing, and relationship research,

making it practical and relevant to your life.

12 Weeks Of Live Classes

Join live on Zoom, or watch the replays later! Dynamic learning includes lecture, Q&A, experiential work and small-group breakout sharing.

Guided Growth Opportunities

Deepen your process with powerful worksheets each week, and stay connected to the coursework with a buddy or buddies.

Affinity Groups

Grow more as you exchange support with like-minded course members. We'll help you form affinity groups by age, region and other commonalities.

Group Coaching

Add on the Deep Dive Membership option to get personal laser-coaching with Academy director Ruth Schwartz after every class.

Want More Than Just 12 Weeks Of Support?

The Roadmap Course is life-changing on its own. But for maximum support and effectiveness, why not give yourself an even bigger gift? Academy Membership includes many more benefits, including group coaching for Deep Dive members, and nine months of live classes, 12 months of weekly live skill-building sessions, and a massive archive of recorded classes.

Choose Your Option

A La Carte

12-Week Online Class Only

(January 24-April 11, 2026)

$597

Payment plan available.

100% Money Back Guarantee!

See details below.

A La Carte

Annual

Deep Dive Membership

Get all our online live and recorded classes and all our group coaching for 12 full months.

$1997

Payment plan available.

Deep Dive

Annual

Basic Academy Membership

Get all our live classes and access to our core archives, plus our weekly Skills Lab, for 12 full months.

$997

Payment plan available.

Basic

Happy Lesbian Love

Doesn't Just Happen By Accident

(It Takes Learning How!)

PIERCE & LAURA

"We are so grateful to the Academy for making our relationship deep and rich, and meaningful and possible." -- Pierce & Laura

Pierce and Laura met online after an Academy class gave Pierce the courage to post a profile. They built their relationship slowly. Laura signed up for classes too. Together, they built a relationship that surprised both of them, and found themselves able to navigate challenges, and sustain joy, beyond what they had ever imagined. They didn't just get lucky -- they did the work. Learn more about Pierce and Laura's unique long-term, long-distance love here.

JILL & LAURIE

Jill and Laurie are perfect for each other -- yet if they hadn't gotten a Conscious Girlfriend Academy education, their relationship might never have happened at all, or else would have been a disaster. Hear how the Academy helped them prepare for the beautiful love they share, and helps them keep it strong.

MARY

Mary has been involved with Conscious Girlfriend Academy for many years. Even though she's done a lot of personal growth work elsewhere, she keeps coming back to the Academy to deepen her learning, and to connect with like-minded women and community.

Jessica says, "I wish all lesbians and queer women had access to this."

Pierce went from isolation to connection, then learned how to date online -- with great results!

Cynthia says, "I've been through a lot of relationship training, but CGA was my best investment ever."

Jen and Marge compare CGA to "a gym membership for your heart."

Tiggy found other people working toward growth just as she was, and says "It was right on time."

Lisa explains why she considers the Academy an amazing value.

Get Results

After the Roadmap, picture yourself:

Trusting yourself and what you have to offer.

Feeling resilient enough to date without risking your sense of self-worth.

Dating with clarity and confidence, and actually having fun doing it.

Knowing how to use the powerful vehicle of online dating wisely, if you choose -- or how to meet women offline, if you'd rather.

Understanding how chemistry and compatibility really work, so you won't get swept off your feet by a spark that will end up hurting you.

Knowing how to recognize and respond to red flags, and also handle your own.

Finding an amazing woman who is truly right for you, not just for the U-haul, but for the long haul.

Building a safe, trusting relationship in which you feel seen, heard, accepted and loved.

Sharing life's sweet moments, supporting each other through the tough times, and growing together.

Getting through conflicts in ways that help you stay connected to her and yourself in healthy, life-affirming ways.

This can really happen.

Frequently Asked Questions

If your question isn't answered here, just email us >here.

CONTENT

What does the Roadmap cover?

Month 1: Lesbian Dating & Love Fundamentals

Key Components Of Healthy Lesbian or Queer Love

The Lesbian Relationship Life Cycle: Limerence & Power Struggles

Emotional Awareness and Regulation

Healing Past Wounds

Month 2: Essential Skills

Making Peace With Your Own Brain

Attachment State Conflicts & Healing

Communication for Lesbian Emotional Intimacy

Month 3: Lesbian & Queer Dating Prep

Emotions as Messengers and Ghosts

Understanding Your Sexual Self

Dating Skills 1: Vision, Calibration & Connection

Dating Skills 2: Pacing, Red Flags & Compatibility Assessment

PARTICIPATION

Should I take just the Roadmap, or should I join the Academy?

The Roadmap is a very powerful 12-week course, and just taking that single course has gotten great results for many participants. However, giving yourself a full year of support, many additional classes (both live and on-demand,) plus a weekly skills lab to actually practice the new skills you're learning, is definitely the best way to guarantee that your love life will change. Plus, joining for a full year is a great value.

How much time does it take?

Optimally, we suggest budgeting 4-5 hours per week: two for class, two more for the thought-provoking worksheets, and potentially one to meet with your buddies. But look at it this way: when you meet someone special, you'll likely want to spend that much weekly time with her, right?

Will there be anyone else like me?

Participants have ranged in age from 21-88, with a median age over 50. Women and non-binary people of all races are warmly affirmed. Some are lifelong lesbians; others are newly out. We come from all over the U.S. and many other countries.

TUITION OPTIONS

How much does it cost? Are there scholarships or payment plans?

A la carte tuition is $597. For more comprehensive support and to get started right away, become an Academy member! You'll get a full year of live classes and Skill-Building Labs, too, for $997, or $1997 if you choose the Deep Dive option with group coaching. If money is a barrier, read our scholarship policy here.

TECH REQUIREMENTS

What tech will I need?

Our online classes uuse Zoom, an easy-to-download, easy-to-use app for phone, tablet or computer. However, you'll have a higher quality experience on a computer, since you can see more participants at once. Replays and worksheets are available on our website.

Our in-person retreat requires no tech :)

Participants Say:

"On Nov 23, 2018, I finished your 12-week Roadmap. Prior to that I had been trying unsuccessfully to date for years, with over 100 first dates that never went anywhere. Your class made the difference. Six days later, I met someone online... and after 15 months, we were married on April 21, 2020. We are an incredible match in so many ways that we can't believe it ourselves. The Road Map class prepared me for many of the important components of our relationship. She is 68 and I just turned 71."

Diana & Marci

"In such a short time in the Academy, I feel that so many things are making so much sense, and connecting things inside me in a way that hasn't quite happened before... it's life-changing. Plus, such an amazing group of women sharing of themselves and truly helping one another."

Diane

"I often send clients to the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, and have seen it transform women's lives. It's run with heart and integrity and is a true service to the lesbian community, delivering comprehensive information in a usable format. There's nothing else like it out there."

Julie Bjelland, MFT

Founder, Sensitive Empowerment Community

"Last week I missed Roadmap due to dental issues... So, I just watched last week’s recording. MAN! Powerful stuff! I have never taken so many notes! Then I went on a first date and pushed through my anxiety and fear and started talking about what I was REALLY looking for, and asked the same of her. And I did well!

Lora

"Lisa and I got married in October. My relationship with her is the healthiest and most secure I have ever felt. I’d like to think it’s due to the awareness you and the education of your content has given to me. Finding your special someone is possible past 50. I was starting to lose hope that I would ever find this kind of connection."

J.C.

I’ve gotten so much out of the Road Map class, and continue to follow up and cycle back through the homework on my own.

I’ve been telling many friends about how great it is, even my straight friends.

I feel like I can move forward with so much more groundedness and confidence due to the new skills and insights.

Sarah

"I wanted to share that I am now totally comfortable with you using my full name, if you still would like to use my testimonial. Coming up on my four year anniversary since taking your Roadmap course and I still believe, it and you helped me to become ready to meet my Beloved and to have the healthy, loving, conscious relationship that we have today.

Fay Zenoff

"I'm so happy I was told about this group. I've studied so much, done many years in various therapies, and yet this exploration feels like a light shining on the corners of my heart. May the learning infiltrate every cell."

Jane

"I didn’t want to miss the opportunity to thank you for all the support and insights I have received from you and the wonderful group of women in the Academy. Thanks to the wise advice and support of two women in a breakout group, I had the courage to say the three magic words I like you to the woman I felt attracted to, and the rest was history. My first lesbian relationship and the confirmation of what I always knew: that I love women."

Myrna

Meet Your Roadmap Leader

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D

Ruth is the founding director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy and co-author, with Michelle Murrain, of the Amazon-bestselling Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, as well as author of seven other books.

She has taught at eight colleges and universities, including California State University Fresno, Cleveland State, Goddard College, Mills College, and Ashland University.

Ruth holds degrees and certificates in Transpersonal Psychology, Creative Writing, and many healing modalities, including shamanism.

She came out in 1982 and says, "I teach the classes I wish I'd had available to me decades ago. I had to learn the hard way, and created a lot of heartbreak along the way. Now I'm incredibly grateful to have assembled the tools that make lesbian love healthy, happy and drama-free."

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But What About The Cost?

A past participant reflected:

"It seemed expensive at first, until I thought about the astronomical amount of money this class would have saved me in divorce costs, not to mention years of heartache. Then I realized it was a no-brainer. I had so much hope and desire, but where was I supposed to learn what a good lesbian relationship actually takes? No other resource has ever really spoken to me as a lesbian. Plus, with a money-back guarantee? You can't lose." -- J.S.

Another participant says, "I was actually surprised at the low cost. It's such a great value for what you get."

The A La Carte Roadmap Course Even Comes With A

Money-Back Guarantee.

Obviously, we can't guarantee you a girlfriend. But we do guarantee that if you do the work, you will be far better-prepared for healthy, happy lesbian dating and love in just 12 weeks' time.

So here's our offer: If you're new to the Academy, take the entire 12-week online class risk-free. Come live, or watch the replays. Take notes, participate, and do the homework.

At the end, if you feel you didn't get what you needed, just send us your notes, a summary of what you learned, and details of what you feel was missing. We'll do our best to help you, and refund your money, too.