Our Gift To You! 🏳️🌈
Free* Strategy Session For Your Lesbian/Queer Heart
Get a 15-30-minute one-on-one consult with Jen, and get a map forward toward the dating, love or friendship life you truly want.
* By application only, and only for people who are not currently Academy members.
Here's How To Apply For Your Strategy Call
Just send an email to [email protected] with brief (1-3 sentence) answers to these questions.
1) If a queer fairy godmother could wave a magic wand, what changes would you most like to see in your lesbian or queer dating, love or friendship life? (Your need for more like-minded community is just as valid as the desire for a girlfriend or partner :)
2) How motivated do you feel to bring these changes into being?
3) Would you like to tell me more of your story, and hear about how the Academy could support you in this process?
Make sure your email includes the contact info you'd like us to use -- phone, text, email, Whatsapp or Facebook Messenger.
We'll respond to all applications.
Welcome!
I'm Dr. Ruth Schwartz, director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, and I'm so glad you found us. We help women and non-binary people crack the code to healthy, lasting lesbian love, and make great friends in the process.
Just coming out? We're delighted you're here.
We Exist To Support
Lesbian & Queer Love
The Academy is a warmly welcoming international learning community for lesbians and adjacent queer people who are dedicated to ending heartbreak, dating wisely and loving well.
No matter how much inner work you've already done, it's different to learn from LGBTQ coaches, with LGBTQ classmates, with cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology, attachment theory and relationship research filtered through decades of lived lesbian experience.
Our work goes as deep as you do.
Life-Changing Live Classes
If you've ever started a relationship with heart, hope and good will, only to have it shatter, you know you need a better way. You'll find it here.
If you're ever been fooled by chemistry or ruled by scarcity, you're not alone -- and it can change. Here you'll learn to build self-trust, clarity, and the skills you need to date wisely, so you'll never have a bad relationship again. (And when you're ready, you can have a great one!)
Heart-Opening Community
Not sure you're looking for love, but want more community and deeper friendships with growth-minded fellow travelers? Great!
Our classes and groups welcome longtime lesbians, women just coming out, and everyone in between. The depth, heart, vulnerability and courage we share here creates a powerful sense of home, as well as deep friendships.
A Path To Wise Dating & Lasting Love
Dating and love are where "the rubber meets the road," where our deepest longings live, and where our issues come up.
Lesbian relationships can be the best relationships on the planet, but they also take skill. That's why we combine cutting-edge neuroscience and attachment theory with decades of lived lesbian experience and spiritual wisdom from many traditions.
Skills Practice & Recordings
Hearing and sharing stories and getting to actually practice new skills is a big part of how Conscious Girlfriend changes lives. That's where our weekly skills lab comes in.
Packed schedule? You can also learn a lot on your own time. As a member, you'll also get access to the world's biggest treasure trove of recorded classes on lesbian dating, love and sexuality.
Common Lesbian Challenges
Can You Relate?
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Dating:
"I've had lesbian relationships, but I've really never dated. How do I do it?"
"It's been a long time since I've dated, and the landscape is so different now."
"I know I tend to go too fast, but I don't know how to change that."
"I'm a late bloomer, and have no idea how to start dating women."
'"Sometimes I wonder if the right person for me is even out there, or maybe I'm not meant to have a relationship."
"I want to date because I'm lonely, but my relationship track record isn't good."
"I don't like online dating, but I'm not sure how else to meet women."
"I'm not sure how to figure out if someone is interested in me."
"I don't know how to make the first move."
"I'm nervous about dating and getting rejected."
"I'm afraid to date, because I don't want to hurt someone if I realize I'm not interested."
"I hate dating! I just want to be in a relationship!"
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Relationships:
"My relationships start out amazing, but then fall apart."
"I feel like I'm always attracted to the wrong women. If I'm attracted, she'll be bad for me."
"I find myself in the same painful patterns over and over, and I don't know how to break them."
"I know I need help communicating my needs."
"I've found myself in toxic relationships. I seem to draw them like magnets."
"I often end up feeling overwhelmed or suffocated in my relationships."
"I don't know why my GF and I fight and bicker so much."
"It feels like we're just roommates. Where did the spark go?"
"I have a lot of trouble trusting. I often feel jealous or insecure."
"I don't want to have to give myself up to be in a relationship."
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Breakups:
"My last breakup shattered me. I still can't stop thinking about her and crying."
"I feel like I should get out there and date, but I'm not sure I'm over my ex."
"I don't know how I'll ever be able to trust someone with my heart again."
"I still see my ex around town. It makes it really hard for me to socialize."
"My ex broke up with me suddenly, out of the blue, and I still don't understand why."
"I keep breaking up and making up with the same person."
"It's been a long time since my breakup, but I don't know how to let go."
"I keep replaying my relationship in my head, because I don't understand what happened."
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Sex:
"I was raised with a lot of guilt and shame, and it still affects me."
"I don't know how to ask for what I want in bed."
"I have fantasies or desires I feel ashamed of."
"I don't feel confident in bed, and it affects my dating and relationships."
"'I never seem to be able to get my needs met in bed."
"My desire for sex is really low. I wonder if I might even be asexual, or just done with sex."
"I've had big libido mismatches with girlfriends, and it hurts."
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Community:
"I sometimes feel like I'm not 'gay enough' to be part of the community."
"I've struggled to make lesbian or queer friends."
"A lot of my lesbian friends are into drinking and that's just not my scene."
"As a late bloomer, I'm afraid lesbians won't accept me."
"I could really use some growth-oriented, introspective lesbian or queer friends."
If So, The Academy Was Made For You.
"This time, I choose to love with my full intelligence."
-- Adrienne Rich
Featured In:
Our Book Changes Lives
"I finally came out at 32, am now 44, and thanks to discovering your book I have finally found me. I’m currently on week 3. After looking back over my last relationship I realised how much self loathing I had, but your book has given me a new lease on life. Now it's not about if I'm worthy of someone's love, it's whether we are both worthy of each other. I have learnt to not always be the giver and then feel resentful. I now know-- I deserve to be happy. I am worthy, I am beautiful, I am lovable as I am. My flaws and imperfections are what make me me. I'm happily single right now but I know by the end of the 12 weeks I will be ready... to meet the woman I deserve to be with. Anyway, sorry for the long email, I just wanted to say THANK YOU!!!!!!!! – MC, age 44, U.K.
You Can Have The Love You Want.
It Just Takes Learning How.
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