Learn Why Healthy Attachment Is The Key To Happy Lesbian Relationships --
And How To Heal Your Attachment Style To Have The Love You Want
Lesbian relationships are beautiful.
But sometimes they get very painful.
This course on Attachment
will help you finally understand why --
and what to do about it.
Attachment Style Differences And Conflicts:
The Unseen Cause Of Most Lesbian Relationship Problems
Attachment challenges take different forms -- and they are
at the root of almost every lesbian breakup I've ever seen.
Many couples never untangle this dynamic. But you can.
This intensive experiential course will help you do that.
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Why Attachment Styles Matter To Your Life
All people, and all relationships, need both intimacy and autonomy, closeness and separateness. But as time goes on, or when under stress, lesbian couples often get stuck in push-pull dynamics around these needs.
This is a big part of why people say "love hurts."
Can you relate to any of these ways attachment differences show up?
"My GF seems to be avoiding sex with me. She'd rather play video games or watch TV or be on social media. I miss connecting with her."
"It used to be so easy between us, but these days everything I do seems to trigger my GF, and she wants to 'process' all the time. I don't know how to be there for her in the ways she seems to need. I feel exhausted and drained."
"I'm tired of fighting to try to get my needs met. It seems like everything else in my GF's life is higher priority than I am. She acts like I'm too clingy, but it's normal to want to spend time with your partner."
"No matter how much I give and do for my GF, it seems like nothing is ever enough. I tend to be a people pleaser, but when I set a healthy boundary, my GF gets hurt and mad. I don't know what to do."
"I hate going to bed angry or upset. I always want to talk through everything, and that's healthy, isn't it? But I see this glazed look come over my GF's face and she just clams up."
"I love my GF, but it seems like no matter what I do, she doesn't believe me. These days she's jealous of everyone and everything in my life -- even my dog!"
"Something my GF said keeps reverberating in my head over and over. It seems like a little thing to her, but every time I think of it, I can't stop crying. She wants me to just get over it, but I can't."
"If only my GF would just back off a little, I could feel close to her again. But it seems like she's always pushing for more: more of my time, more affection, more everything. It's overwhelming."
Who is right in these scenarios? Both women are -- but they've gotten polarized into "pursuer" and "withdrawer" (also known as anxious vs. avoidant attachment.)
Many of us also have complex attachment styles, in which we go back and forth between needing more closeness and needing more space. This can be confusing, both to us, and to our partners.
And unless you can heal this conflict at its root, it will lead to ongoing fights, hurt, disconnection, dissatisfaction and breakups, even between women who truly love each other and are basically compatible.
This is tragic. And it doesn't have to be this way.
Whether you’re currently single or coupled, the Attachment Healing Intensive will teach you how to re-wire your brain for more resilience!
If you’re in a relationship, this will make your connection much easier – and if you’re currently single, it will help get you ready for a healthy,
connected, drama-free love relationship in the future.
The Attachment Healing Intensive is a self-paced resource with three weeks of audios and worksheets PLUS two recordings of live Conscious Girlfriend classes to help you take in the information.
It's powerful to take on your own, whether you're single or partnered. It's also transformational to share with a partner.
You'll never have the same fight again!
Tuition is $199.
Imagine feeling this way in a relationship:
"I’m happy when my girlfriend wants to connect more, and I’m happy
when we’re more independent, too. I don’t get triggered much
by our interactions. I feel solid and secure inside when I think of her."
That might feel like a fantasy if you’re in a lot of conflict right now.
Yet it's realistic when you develop more secure attachment,
regardless of whether you're someone who needs
a lot of closeness, a lot of space, or both.
Secure attachment is an inner state of ease that you can
develop either on your own or in a relationship.
Here's What The Attachment Healing Intensive
Will Help You Do
Recognize your habitual attachment-related weak points and triggers, and practice ways to get calm and centered again when these buttons get pushed.
Learn how your attachment style developed, how it has shaped your life, and how to shift it, regardless of your history.
Use powerful, proven practices that help you rewire your brain toward more secure attachment, no matter what your current attachment style is. (And yes, these tools work whether you're single or in a relationship!)
Learn and practice the magic words and phrases that will help you restore connection with a partner whose attachment wounds have come up, even if she's angry or blaming you -- and even when you're triggered, too.
Attachment wounds are the hidden cause of most painful relationship challenges --
and until now, you may have responded by trying to compromise, stuff your feelings, criticizing your partner or attempting to change her.
These approaches don't work. In fact, they make things worse.
The Attachment Healing Intensive will show you the way forward.
The Attachment Healing Intensive is a self-paced resource with three weeks of audios and worksheets PLUS two recordings of live Conscious Girlfriend classes to help you take in the information.
It's powerful to take on your own, whether you're single or partnered.
It's also transformational to share with a partner.
You'll never have the same fight again!
Tuition is $199.
For many women, attachment healing work is the missing piece
that will finally enable you to have the happy, healthy,
drama-free relationship you want.
All Conscious Girlfriend work helps you learn how to communicate cleanly and learn to work with your emotions and triggers. Yet when you get deep enough into your earliest, most painful and least conscious brain patterning, those skills sometimes can’t take you far enough – and that’s when an understanding of attachment and how to work with it becomes essential.
Participants Say:
Ameli N.
Age 59
You shared an incredible amount of information and resources around attachment styles, and your style felt engaging and relaxed. You had encouragement and positivity for every woman in the class. This is great information for anyone who wants to learn and grow inside themselves and/or in intimate relationships. I highly recommend the class! - Elizabeth
Teresa C.
Age 45
The Attachment class was very helpful. I'm still in a "oh my God yet another thing that I intuitively felt was wrong but couldn't pin point/explain , eloquently solve or self-regulate so I kept creating/allowing painful circumstances and misalignments much to others' disgust" phase with your offerings. Thank you for being so damn validating. This process is a very freeing, healing, edifying, and emboldening one. - M.G.
Jennifer B.
Age 68
I want to say again how valuable and helpful I found this class. I learned a lot that helped me understand better what was happening between my avoidant ex and my anxious self - and it helped me to let go and come to acceptance and resolution inside myself. The most helpful parts were the informational lectures combined with the imagery exercises around shifting into more secure attachment. - D.F.
What You'll Get In The Attachment Healing Intensive
Three self-paced audio lessons (approximately 1 hour of listening per lesson), which give you a deep cognitive understanding of attachment, and guide you through practices that help you move toward more secure attachment. Most people find it helpful to work with these lessons again and again, because they are experiential.
Three weeks of written worksheets designed to supplement and deepen your exploration of your attachment style, and solidify your learning from the audios.
Two video recordings of live classes offered in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy about attachment.
Have you ever felt hopeless when this kind of difference came up between you and your partner?
Most of us do.
You say, "How am I supposed to stop feeling lonely and hurt, when you hardly seem to want to spend time with me?"
She says, "How am I supposed to want to spend time with you when you're always pressuring me?"
You think, "It feels like you don't love me any more."
She thinks, "It feels like you don't accept me and my needs."
It can feel hopeless. But it's not. The answer doesn't lie in trying to change your partner -- it lies in developing more secure attachment inside yourself. This class will help you do that.
Even if you’re single or have an uncooperative partner, you can absolutely move the needle on your attachment style on your own.
And if you’re in a relationship with a cooperative partner, you can also move the needle together toward creating “earned secure attachment.” The more you earn secure attachment with each other, the weaker and less frequent your triggers will get, and the easier it will be for you to love and feel loved through your differences. As that happens, the differences in your needs may even shrink. Everything just gets easier.
Here at Conscious Girlfriend, we support you!
Because Your Heart is Worth It.
Lesbians and queer women are courageous and powerful,
and relationships between women can be the very best
relationships on the planet.
You deserve happy, healthy love -- and you can have it.
But because two women can bond so deeply and quickly,
and no one ever taught you how to date wisely,
and Hollywood made you think that chemistry was enough,
you've probably had relationships go painfully bad.
Maybe over and over again.
You are not alone. And this can change.
Does this sound like you?
You're smart, thoughtful, and willing to work hard.
You've probably done various kinds of healing, therapy,
12-step work, meditation, or other spiritual work.
Intimate relationships are the final frontier,
and you need a roadmap so that you're not just
working hard, you're working smart.
That's what the Academy will give you.
All self-identified women who love women, or want to, are welcome, as are non-binary people who feel at home in primarily lesbian spaces.
The Conscious Girlfriend Academy exists to support
women who value growth, and are willing to take action
to learn how to be the right partner, as well as find her.
If that sounds like you, we'll see you in class!
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