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Lesbian Elders*
*For those who have 64+ years of life experience and/or resonate with who we are :)
Join Us For A Free Info & Intro Meeting!
Tuesday, May 30, 9:00-10:30 a.m. Pacific Time
(that's 10:00-11:30 Mountain, 11:00-12:30 Central, 12:00-1:30 Eastern)
Why Lesbian Elders Support?
Health issues, medical appointments, sometimes serious diagnoses. Supporting the people we love through those challenges, too, and sometimes losing them. Needing help we didn't need before. And through it all, still being our inimitable selves -- working to find meaning, have fun, create, connect, and to love and be loved... all of that is fodder for this group. Because whatever you're going through, life is richer when shared.
Meet Shayna, Our Facilitator & Member
Among other things, Shayna used to be a scribe, spiritual director, artist, sculptor, musician, athlete, professional juggler, editor and tennis teaching pro. She is no longer those things. Life changes as we age, in so many ways. We'll be talking about that, and many other issues. Shayna is still an avid reader who actively believes in learning and growing, and is participating in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy Coach Training.
Our Vision for the Lesbian Elders Group
Shayna says, "I want this group to be a place where women share our joy, our art, our music. Maybe we'll talk about an Adrienne Rich poem, or watch a movie together. Maybe we'll talk about writing our wills or getting our Power Of Attorney forms in order. Maybe we'll talk about losing friends. Or about dating in our 60s, 70s, 80s. Maybe we'll form support trees for each other. Maybe women in the group will fall in love with each other. We'll definitely laugh."
Join Us For A Free Info and Input Session!
We are forming a community of elders and would love to know what you want and need from such a community. Our hope is to offer a sense of lesbian home and chosen family, where all conversations are welcome. We're envisioning a weekly meeting each Tuesday from 9:00-10:30 a.m. Pacific time. Join us on Tuesday, May 30 for a heart-centered planning meeting, and get to know other lesbian elders at the same time!
The Lesbian Elders Support & Connection Group is a program of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy. Learn more about
the Academy below!
The Academy is the leading global resource for conscious lesbian and queer dating, relationship and sexuality education and support.
Lesbians: Can You Relate To
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You're single, and you don't want to stay that way forever -- but you also don't want to get hurt again.
You've got a good life on your own, but you know the right partner would make it even better. But past hurts have made you doubtful about finding the right person this time around. You know for sure you don't want more heartbreak.
You're not sure how to date, or how to date women.
Many lesbians have never really "dated" -- we often feel a spark and dive right in. But you've reached a point in your life where you don't want to do that again -- and/or, you've come out more recently and need help understanding how dating works between women. You're ready to bring body, mind and heart together in conscious, intentional dating, so you can find lasting love.
You're hurting from a breakup, and need help healing.
Lesbian breakups can be among the most painful experiences on the planet. You need help from people who understand that pain, who can help you understand what happened and reclaim your life.
You're over 40 (and maybe over 50, 60 or 70), and dating and love are different for you now.
Your needs and priorities have changed, and so has the world. You wonder if it's too late for you, but you also know yourself better than ever before, and want help finding a partner to be with for the rest of your life.
You know online dating sites are the way to meet people, but uggggh.
You wonder: Where do I even start? Which app(s)? What should I say in my profile? How can I know who's real and who's not? What are the "rules" of app messaging and dating? How can I keep my heart safe? Or maybe you tried online dating, and you were missing key information to make it work for you.
You'd welcome having more growth-oriented lesbian friends.
It's a straight world out there. You've got room in your life for more lesbian, bi and queer friends who really "get" you, who see and value you as you are, and can support your growth.
Here's How The Academy Helps:
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Our weekly Roadmap Connection Gatherings, facilitated by certified Conscious Girlfriend Coaches, give members a place to discuss and practice the life-changing skills outlined in the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love: A Roadmap To Creating The Relationship Of Your Dreams.
Heart-Healing Community.
Academy Study Buddies help keep you accountable in your learning process. Academy friends make your life richer. Growth-oriented camaraderie deepens your transformation. Some people feel they find their chosen family in the Academy. And yes, some people find partners, too!
Recordings Of The 12-Week Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love Class, plus free access to the 12-week live class once/year.
Week by week, the Roadmap course walks you through the process of preparing for healthy love and building the skills to date with clarity and confidence.
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Throughout the year, Academy director Ruth Schwartz personally teaches live classes on the topics closest to our members' hearts, including: The Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love. Find True Love Online. Coming Out & Coming Home. Supporting Members receive ALL classes free.
Intimate Group Coaching With Ruth
This monthly group is your chance to get laser-coaching from Ruth, while also learning from and witnessing the process of other members. Group Coaching with Ruth is available to Supporting Members only.
The World's Best Library Of Lesbian Dating, Love & Sex Classes
Here are just a few of the many recorded classes you'll be able to access:
Dating
Pacing While Dating
Dating For Highly Sensitive People
Wise Lesbian Dating Fundamentals
Dating After Trauma
Relationships
The Art of Boundaries & Requests
Communication for Emotional Intimacy
Ending Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics
Sex
Understanding & Embracing Your Erotic Self
Oral Sex & Energy Sex
Sacred Sexuality
Lesbian Erotic Liberation
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FAQs
If you're like many of our members, you have a deep longing for a healthy, loving, trust-filled, supportive and passionate relationship, yet you're not sure how to find the right partner. In Academy classes you'll learn how to create a vision for your ideal relationship -- and build the skills to co-create your half of it. You'll learn how to date with clarity and confidence, how to recognize real compatibility (and not get fooled by chemistry or limerence, the "honeymoon stage"), how to communicate in ways that build emotional intimacy, and (if you choose) how to have fulfilling sex, too. Joining the Academy is like getting a gym membership for your romantic life! It gives you the community support and consistent education and practice you need, to become able to have the love life you want.
Honestly, we used to sell a la carte classes, but we found it didn't give the same results. The Academy exists to help you gain and integrate the knowledge and skills to change your love life forever. That's an incredibly important and achievable goal, but it usually takes more than just watching a few classes to make it happen. It takes ongoing mentorship, support and practice -- and that's what you'll get by becoming a member.
We recommend joining the Academy for a year because 1) You get a big discount doing it that way. 2) Paying up front will motivate you to come to as many classes as you actually need, without having to second-guess yourself about each one. 3) Getting to know other members will be a big help in creating the love life you actually want. It's hard to do alone, and much easier when you're connected to like-minded women on similar journeys.
Just like you, many of our members have done a lot of self-work -- yet it's rare for that work to specifically address the unique gifts and challenges of lesbian relationships. Therapy, 12-step, meditation, Landmark, and other kinds of growth and healing work are all incredibly valuable, yet lesbian dating and lesbian love requires certain highly specific understandings and skills which many people haven't found elsewhere -- and find in the Academy. Plus, along with mentorship and support, we offer opportunities to practice what you learn.
Yes! We've got Conscious Girlfriend Certified Coaches! Check them out here. CGA coaches have received the world's best training in the particular challenges of lesbian coming out, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships, lesbian attachment, lesbian sex and lesbian breakups -- and their support is very powerful. However, unless your money and time are unlimited, we strongly encourage you to join the Academy too. Our classes cover life-changing information in a more budget-friendly way, and give you the benefit of seeing and hearing like-minded women describe their journeys, ask questions, and receive group coaching.
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You create such a safe container in which to explore sexual identity and connection... and honor all the different ways that humans show up or choose not to show up. That is FREAKIN' AWESOME MODELING! -- R+P, Lesbian Erotic Liberation Class
R+P
Lesbian Erotic Liberation Class
The community is a beautiful thing, critical to me & to so many of us, post-Covid, with my first & not very healthy relationship since my wife died 3 years ago. I’ve gratefully gotten involved w/ CGA for the information & support waiting for me here.
Ellen
Academy Member
It was an enormous pleasure to participate in this course. I learned so much about myself, about romantic relationships between women, leaving behind old beliefs that don't serve me... I never imagined this would be so deep and so healing!
Alexandra
Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love Class
The program was amazing! It really helped me to own my sexual identity and feel less self-conscious and embarrassed about coming out in my fifties. It was refreshing and comforting to meet others in the same boat. The ladies in the academy are wonderful… many possibilities to make friends. Thank you so much for supporting me on this journey. I will definitely recommend it to others.
I can honestly say I couldn't be happier because I have never been this happy before. My new GF and I have our challenges here and there, but those become opportunities to take pause with each other in order to learn and grow and arrive at a deeper level of connection. No fights, tension, stress... You know, the CG promise! I will always be a grateful and devout follower of what I gained through you, CG and its community. I am living proof that when I got myself good and ready, there she was.
I cannot express how valuable the Roadmap class was to me and for all I have continued to learn through The Academy and all the wonderful and beautiful women I have met there. My 2 very good friends have noticed and made wonderful comments to me regarding how much they can tell that I have grown over the past several months. I am so happy that I have the skills to be able to put to use when needed!
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Lesbian Dating Classes
Information you won't find anywhere else!
These on-demand classes are not for sale,
but are available free to Supporting Academy Members.
Dating: Red, Green
and Yellow Flags
Learn why sometimes a red flag can turn yellow or even green -- but sometimes a green flag can change color, too.
Gain the clarity to listen to your intuition, assess someone new, and also stay curious and open.
90-Minute Video Class
Lesbian Dating
Deep Dive
How to know if you're actually ready to date, and what to do if you're not -- or if she's not.
Learn how to build a solid foundation whether you're local or long-distance, and what "friends first" and compatibility really mean.
And, just for fun, learn how to flirt, too...without committing!
90-Minute Video Class
Wise Lesbian Dating Fundamentals
You've been around the block and you're ready to learn to do this thing differently -- but where do you begin? What does it even mean to "date," vs. just dive in?
Learn what to do when you feel a spark, and also when you don't, so you can actually find long-term love.
90-Minute Video Class
Releasing Blocks
to Love
Why sometimes that 67-point checklist actually keeps you from love -- and how to focus on what really matters in seeking a partner.
Learn how to become someone who actually finds love, rather than keeps on looking.
90-Minute Video Class
Conscious Connection & Dating
Learn how to make every date a good date while also dating with a clear vision -- and learn when and how to discuss that vision without scaring someone off.
Strengthen your ability to be yourself on dates, while also gaining key information about compatibility.
90-Minute Video Class
Anatomy of A Lesbian Heartbreak
The truth about why so many relationships start out amazing, yet fall apart in less than a year -- and how to prevent this heartbreak.
Learn how to stop getting derailed by a sense of scarcity, or attractions to women who aren't good for you.
90-Minute Video Class
True Compatibility
Compatibility is key to a long-term relationship, but it's not intuitive. Learn the most important factor (which probably isn't even on your radar!)
Do you ever want different, contradictory things? Learn how to become more compatible with yourself, so you can find a love that works for the complex being you are.
90-Minute Video Class
Preparing For A Healthy Relationship
Are you stuck in old stories or unrealistic fantasies about love? Learn how to create a nuanced and updated vision for the relationship you want.
Build the skills and develop the mindset for a happy, lasting intimate relationship -- before you find her!
90-Minute Video Class
Rewrite Your
Relationship Scripts
Do you have painful patterns you replay again and again, like trying to "rescue" women who need help, falling for unavailable women, or over-giving and then feeling resentful?
Learn what it really takes to transform these dysfunctional "scripts," and create the new reality you truly want.
90-Minute Video Class
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Becoming a Supporting Member is the only way to access intimate small-group coaching with Academy Director Ruth Schwartz, plus saves you hundreds of dollars on entry fees to other class.
Lesbian Bed Life
Intelligent, frank, compassionate lesbian sex ed you won't find elsewhere.
On-demand classes available free to Supporting Academy Members!
Bedroom Communication
The secret to being able to rock each other's worlds in bed is right here, in these empowering sexual communication tools.
Lesbian Bed Life Fundamentals
Want a deeply fulfilling sex life? This 5-video class gives you a comprehensive lesbian erotic education.
Oral Sex & Energy Sex
One of our all-time best sellers, this class is a must-watch whether you're newly out or a lifelong lesbian. Viewers call it liberating and life-changing.
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