All Sex Coaches Are Not Alike.
The sex coach my spouse and I worked with told me I should just find other lovers. While I wholeheartedly support that solution for some people, it wasn't for me. "I want to have sex with my spouse," I said, crying. "It's a normal thing to want!"
I wish I had known then what I know now. I studied sex coaching for three years at the Somatica Institute, with Jaiya Ma, and elsewhere, and I now have radical new ways of understanding what sex really is, how it actually works, why it can be hard to keep it alive, and what to do about it.
Why Sex Coaching Is Worth It
Living without sex means living without a huge part of your life energy. Whether you're single or coupled, sex is worth investing in. A 10-hour coaching package costs less than many people spend on a weeklong vacation, and it'll do much, much more to change your life.
If you're in a relationship and sex isn't working, getting sex coaching can save you a tremendous amount of heartbreak and financial expense. The catch is, it needs to be from the right coach. The coach I worked with was queer, caring, and had good credentials, but didn't know how to help.
I'll never know if my marriage would have survived if we'd gotten better support -- but I sure wish we'd had the chance to find out. I also believe my other girlfriends and I could have worked through our sexual challenges, if only we'd had the right help.
Sex Coaching Can Help You Discover:
-- The kinds of touch that really turn you on to give and receive
-- The kinds of thoughts, images and words that really turn you on, and how to share them with your partner
-- Why arousal, pleasure, orgasm, love and politics are not necessarily aligned, and what to do when they're not
-- How you and a partner can connect even when your needs and turn-ons differ
-- Why sometimes working on other aspects of your relationship is the key to having good sex, and sometimes it isn't
-- Coping with the impact of trauma
-- Understanding your unique erotic psyche, sexual love language, and sexual brakes and accelerators
-- How to adapt when bodies change due to aging, illness, or weight gain
-- Why menopause can spark a whole new kind of sexual connection
... and much more.
My current girlfriend and I share an incredible degree of openness. We are highly compatible, but even when we don't want the same things, we find ways to connect, explore, play, and share erotic energy and pleasure. I want this for you, too! And I can help you get there.