Coming Out And Coming Home

Coming Out Is A Journey.

And recently, we held a remarkable event.

Over 70 women and non-binary people from at least four countries shared and listened to each other's coming out stories. One was coming out that day. Another had come out 53 years ago. The stories encompassed sadness, loss, laughter, joy and resilience. We listened, we learned, we blessed one another. Our love is a healing force!

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And now it's time for our once-a-year Special Intensive

from the community here to welcome you home.

C O M I N G O U T & C O M I N G H O M E

Thursdays, June 5, 12, 19 & 26

3:00-5:00 p.m. Pacific Time

Optional Group Coaching Add-On, 5:15-6:30 p.m.

Week 1:

Embrace Your True Self

Were you ever really straight? Are you pansexual, bisexual, queer or a lesbian -- and what if none of the labels fit?
Understand the true complexity of sexual and romantic desire, and tell your story in ways that honor your process.
The past you had, the past you didn't get to have, and how to live fully in the present and future.

Week 2:

Lesbian Culture 101

Get up to speed on lesbian lingo and dating and mating conventions, including:

The whole "butch-femme" thing
Lesbian dating and mating conventions, herstory and community
Lesbian prejudices and fears, and how to handle them
Why "an army of ex-lovers cannot fail" -- or can it?
Becoming a culture creator in your new community.

Week 3:

Lesbian Dating For Newbies

Lesbian dating is very, very different!

Avoid "lesbian sheep syndrome" and overcome shyness
Distinguish "friend dates" from "date dates" -- and what to do if you have romantic feelings for a friend
Why chemistry and connection can get you into trouble, and how to date in smart-for-your-heart ways
Why lesbian sexual inexperience can actually be an asset

Week 4:

Navigating The Rest Of The World

Public, private or need-to-know basis: how, whether and when to share your new life with others
Courage and vulnerability as a bridge to a new world
Transmuting fear into courage: sources of inspiration to support your coming out in politically oppressive times

Tuition: ~~$299~~ 25% Off Through Midnight On June 3

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Class + Four Group Coaching Sessions: ~~$399~~

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Academy Director Ruth Schwartz

welcomes you home.

Do you think you may be a lesbian? Or bisexual, or just wondering if there's more for you in life?

Did you come out already, yet need more sense of confidence and belonging?

Your time is now.

A LOVE LETTER FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN THERE

I worried about so many things. What if I was wrong about what I felt? What if I never found someone to love me? Would the lesbian community even accept me? What if I said it and then regretted it forever?

I spent years trying to stop thinking about women. Googling "How to know if you're really a lesbian." I even went to therapists who promised to "ungay" me. I was afraid of destroying my husband, my children, my family. Myself.

But you know what? When I finally did it, it was SUCH a relief. I promise you: you can do it too.

Love,

Finally Me

P.S. What I didn't expect was how amazing the lesbian community would actually be. I've met some of the deepest, most thoughtful, most open and caring women I've ever known here in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy. My confidence is skyrocketing, and I finally feel ready to live the life that's most authentic to me.

Our stories are jewels.

Together, we make a beautiful necklace of courage.

There is a place for you here. No shame, just the joy of arrival.

"I knew even as a kid, but I couldn't bear the thought of living on the margins of society. Now I'm stronger, but I wonder, is it too late for me?"

"I never thought about being attracted to women until after my marriage ended. I found myself looking at men and feeling completely disinterested. I realized I felt so much more alive around my women friends, one of them in particular. And then it happened..."

"It was my daughter who gave me the courage to come out. She was depressed for years, and then finally told me she was trans. I wanted to support her in every way I could. Then it dawned on me, how could I support her when I wasn't even living my true self?!"

"I never thought I could be gay because I didn't fit the stereotypes. It wasn't until I saw two feminine women together that I realized it just looked more right to me than a man and woman ever had."

"I was married for over forty years, and it was a good marriage. But after my husband's death, I started spending a lot of time with a woman in my church. Eventually, neither of us could deny that there was chemistry between us. She got scared and cut the friendship off, which devastated me. Where does that leave me now? Am I bisexual? Am I a lesbian? Is it even possible to come out at 68 years old?"

"I told myself I had to wait until my parents died before I could even think about it. Now I feel like I've wasted so much of my life. How can I forgive myself?

"I never liked my husband touching me. I used to fantasize about women to get myself in the mood. But it felt terrifying to imagine actually becoming one of those women. It took decades to realize that the thought of not ever living my true self was even more terrifying."

"I liked men just fine. Sex with men, no problem. But in my first and only relationship with a woman, I felt so much I had never felt before..."

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Members Say:

HAZEL MARIE VOLK

"Within two months at the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, I've gained more insight into myself and my relationships than I did in a decade of counseling, even with wonderful therapists.

The practical tools, exercises, and invitations to slow down and regulate my nervous system have been transformative. Connecting with others on the same path, from diverse ages and backgrounds, is also deeply supportive. In a world so shaped by heteronormative narratives, it's rare to find these spaces.

For me, Conscious Girlfriend Academy is more than a learning space. It's about healing, connection, and growth. And fun!"

"We met each other online after Pierce took the Academy's class on online dating (which she had always thought she would never do.)

We dated slowly and consciously, using the tools from the classes. Laura signed up for a class, too. Even though there was chemistry, we didn't rush in. Sometimes we'd both watch a class, then schedule a date afterward to talk about it.

Now we've created a life in which Pierce lives in a spiritual community in Mexico, and Laura lives in her California home. Traveling back and forth and sharing our lives this way keeps our love alive and fresh. We get to love each other without sacrificing or compromising ourselves. We are truly living out the Academy promise of 'loving and being loved with ease.'"

PIERCE & LAURA

Conscious Girlfriend Academy

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Meet Your Teacher

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

Ruth is the author of eight books, including the Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, and is founder and director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy.
Ruth's formal training includes a Ph.D. in Transpersonal Psychology and certification as a Somatica Sex & Intimacy Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist, and Applied Shamanism practitioner. She has taught at eight colleges and universities.
Academy participants describe Ruth as compassionate, wise and incisive, and call her classes life-changing. Ruth says, "I teach the classes I always needed, and could never find."