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The Intelligent, Compassionate Learning Community

Supporting Lesbian And Queer Love 

 

Conscious Girlfriend Coach Training And Certification Program

Are you a lesbian or queer coach or therapist who wants a full private practice

and a steady referral stream of highly motivated clients?

 

Or do you want in-depth training on lesbian dating, relationships, attachment and sex,

to support your existing clients or for your own well-being?

 

We hope you'll consider joining Conscious Girlfriend's Coach Training Program. 

 

With our unparalleled knowledge base and reach, we'll help you meet

our community's needs while creating right livelihood for yourself. 

*Admission to the Coach Training Program is by application only.

Please Click Here To Apply For The Training
If You've Already Been Accepted And Are Ready To Register And Pay, Please Click Here

Conscious Girlfriend Coaching Certification

May Be Right For You If... 

  • You're already experienced as a coach, therapist or healer in one or more modalities, or you've already gone deep with Conscious Girlfriend work, or both. 

  • You have lived experience on the LGBTQ spectrum, and you're passionate about serving our community. 

  • You embrace "the path of the wounded healer" around dating and relationships. You know that being an effective coach doesn't require you to have a perfect love life yourself, and you're willing to keep doing your own deep work, learning and healing even as you show up in fuller ways to help others. 

  • You love working with clients, but not having to market your practice, so a steady stream of referrals would make you a happy camper. 

  • Your private practice can sometimes feel isolating, and you'd welcome being part of a supportive community of lesbian and queer coaches.   

  • You're excited to better understand the specific challenges lesbians and queer women face in love, and the solutions that can transform our lives. 

Our community needs you!

There is a massive shortage of coaches and therapists

who truly understand lesbian dating and relationships. 

Will you answer the call?

>>Yes, I Want To Apply for Coach Training!

Imagine being able to:

  • Get trained, mentored and supported by the organization that is changing lesbian and queer love worldwide. (Since 2014, we've served women in 25 countries and authored the #1 Amazon bestselling book on lesbian dating and love.)

  • Easily fill your private practice with clients whom you are uniquely well-qualified to serve.

  • Take advantage of the global shift to online coaching and teaching, and create a work life with complete schedule and location flexibility. 

  • Share a journey of skill-building, healing and expansion with other lesbian and queer coaches, therapists and healers deeply committed to conscious relationships. 

  • Receive optional additional support and mentorship in group facilitation and teaching.  

About the Conscious Girlfriend Coach Training & Certification Program


The training will be highly experiential, so you can practice coaching skills the whole time!

You'll learn both what makes lesbian dating and relationships different,

and how to support lesbian well-being.

 

Here's a brief overview of what the six full-day modules will cover.

MODULE ONE:  SUPPORTING THE UNIQUENESS OF LESBIAN LOVE

 

Includes: How to support clients around queer gender and attractions... coming out... the impact of homophobia, misogyny and trauma... vulnerability, courage and resilience... and why our love, sex and relationships matter.

MODULE TWO: DATING AND LIMERENCE

 

Includes: How to support clients around dating and early relationship challenges, including vulnerability, resilience, transitioning limerence to love, and understanding real  compatibility. 

 

MODULE THREE: COMMUNICATION AND CONFLICT 

 

Includes: How to support clients through common lesbian relationship communication challenges and conflicts. We'll cover why lesbians get stuck in "processing," and how to break the cycle.

MODULE FOUR: BONDING AND ATTACHMENT

 

Includes: How to support clients around the complex attachment challenges of lesbian relationships, and help them understand attachment trauma, nervous system regulation, and attachment  healing. 

MODULE FIVE: LESBIAN BED DEATH AND LIFE

 

Includes: How to support clients around common lesbian sexual challenges and opportunities, including desire disparity, different sexual needs, lowered libido, and shame.  

MODULE SIX: LESBIAN BREAKUPS, LOSS AND HEALING  

Includes: How to support clients through the intense pain of lesbian breakups and addictive relationship cycles, and help them reach real healing. 

ALL MODULES INCLUDE: 

 

Opportunities to practice using psychoeducation, empathy, skill-building, empowerment and brain rewiring tools to support healthy lesbian dating, bonding, sexuality, breakup recovery and resilience. 

Why the World Needs Conscious Girlfriend Coaches, 

And Lesbian/Queer Coaches Need This Training

 

Lesbian relationships are different.

 

We date differently, bond differently, communicate differently, have different sexual needs and challenges -- and yes, we break up differently, too.

 

Lesbian relationships can be the very best relationships on the planet, with levels of depth, healthy bonding, intimacy and sexual pleasure beyond what most couples of other genders ever experience.  

 

Yet many lesbians and queer women don't find themselves able to find, create or sustain this quality of relationship, and few coaches or therapists are prepared to help clients with the unique challenges and opportunities we face. You can change that! 

 

When you truly understand lesbian dating and love,

and combine that knowledge with a powerful coaching skill-set, 

you can change the world, one queer love life at a time. 

 

Here are just a few ways our community's needs are different:

  •  Many lesbians say they have never dated. Instead, as soon as we feel a mutual spark, we often start a relationship. This leads to both an extremely intense limerence period, and a much faster end to this neurochemical honeymoon. Limerence in lesbian relationships often drops dramatically at around three months, leading to intense trigger cascades which many young relationships don't survive. 

  • While heterosexual women often expect their non-sexual girlfriends to be their primary source of emotional intimacy, women in lesbian relationships tend to seek both kinds of intimacy in the same person, placing far more pressure on romantic relationships.  

  • Since women tend to have easier access to emotions, female-female couples experience much deeper emotional bonding and many more triggers. Attachment is far more complex in lesbian relationships -- which means it takes more skill for our relationships to survive. 

  • Women's ability and willingness to communicate about emotions has a downside in lesbian relationships: when we lack self-responsibility and emotional regulation skills, it can lead to endless, draining "lesbian processing." 

  • Homophobia impacts us. Being in the closet, or facing family rejection or job discrimination, add levels of stress to our relationships that heterosexual couples never face. Statistically, female-female couples also have more children and less income, creating further stressors. Of course, this also means that substance abuse, depression and anxiety are high in our community. 

  • Many factors combine to make it hard for lesbian couples to create long-term sexual fulfillment. Most lesbian relationships include at least one, and often two survivors of sexual trauma. Female sexuality, including arousal and orgasm, are complex, and homophobia and misogyny don't prepare us for open, joyful, shame-free exploration. Many women are wired more for responsiveness than initiation, which is one factor that contributes to "lesbian bed death." Since both partners may experience a steep decline in libido after menopause, lesbian relationships have a double challenge to weather. 

  • In heterosexual relationships, the female partner initiates the majority of divorces. Lesbians are women squared, resulting in much higher breakup and divorce rates than other couples.

  • Since emotional bonding is so intense, lesbian breakups are especially traumatic. Many lesbian couples go through multiple reconciliations and partings, and/or struggle to move on, even from very brief relationships.

  • Once a woman has been through this cycle multiple times, she tends to become wary of intimate relationships. Frequently, the only thing strong enough to push her into a relationship is extremely strong attraction -- which often leads to another rapid, intense limerence period, followed by another painful relationship ending.

It's no wonder that we struggle with dating, relationships and sex!

And all of these struggles can be helped by the right coaching.  

 

Every one of those challenges can be turned around. Many former Conscious Girlfriend students and coaching clients report that they are now in the best relationships of their lives. 

 

Lesbians and queer women are incredibly motivated to learn to love well.

 

We can gain the skills to date wisely, understand what compatibility really is, communicate in intimacy-building ways, manage triggers, and create long-term, happy, healthy, conscious relationships -- and long-term lesbian bed life, too! 

 

But we need support to pull this off -- support that has simply not been available to most of us. 

 

That's where you come in, as a certified Conscious Girlfriend coach!

 

Conscious Girlfriend coaching focuses on empowering women,

helping them build the skills to make big shifts 

in dating, love, and in their relationships with themselves.  

 

  • Conscious Girlfriend Certification Program Dates:

    Spring-Summer 2022

     

    Homework and practice sessions are required between each module. Sessions will be recorded for your future reference. Participants are encouraged to attend each module live if at all possible. However, if unavoidable schedule conflicts arise, you may miss up to one full day of training and catch up via the recording, in order to graduate on schedule. 

     

    Module 1: Sunday, March 27, 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT

     

    Module 2: Sunday, April 24, 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT

     

    Module 3: Sunday, May 22, 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT

     

    Module 4: Sunday, June 26, 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT

     

    Summer Break (and time for more practice sessions)

     

    Module 5: Sunday, August 28, 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT

     

    Module 6: Sunday, September 25, 10:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT

Yes, I Want To Apply For Coach Training!

FAQs

Answers To Common Questions About The 

Conscious Girlfriend Coach Training & Certification Program


  • If lesbian relationships face all of these challenges, how can I help?

    This training will give you a big-picture understanding of lesbian patterns, so you can give your clients a map they've never had -- and it will also give you tangible tools to help your clients rapidly change problematic patterns in their dating and relationship lives.  

  • What's different about practicing as a coach vs. a therapist?

    Coaching is a self-regulated profession that offers far more flexibility than psychotherapy, which is one reason that many licensed therapists also develop coaching practices. For instance, as a coach, you may work across state and national lines. And because coaches are also more free to explicitly draw from personal experience in their work, clients may experience the coaching relationship as more empowering and less top-down than traditional therapist-client relationships. 

  • How will Conscious Girlfriend help me fill my coaching practice?

    The Conscious Girlfriend audience includes over 10,000 women motivated to improve their dating and relationship skills! After the training, you'll have the option to pursue certification, and, once certified, to get listed on our website and promoted through other CG channels.  

  • What if I'm struggling with dating and/or relationship challenges in my own life?

    Understanding your clients' challenges from the inside will actually make you a more effective coach! Plus, taking the training will not only prepare you to help others; it will also give you greater knowledge and skills to help yourself, and a community to support you.

  • Can I take the training even if I'm not sure I want to work with clients?

    Yes. You may take the training and decide later if you want to develop a coaching practice.  

  • Why would clients want Conscious Girlfriend coaching instead of therapy?

    Although Conscious Girlfriend coaching is not a replacement for deep attachment work, somatic trauma healing, or other psychotherapeutic work, it offers a faster, more affordable, skills-based source of help. Plus, just as CG coaching is not a replacement for therapy, therapy is not a replacement for CG coaching. Many women who have done years or decades of therapy still benefit from Conscious Girlfriend skills to help them with lesbian/queer dating and love.

  •  What kinds of skills do Conscious Girlfriend coaches learn and utilize?

    Conscious Girlfriend coaching includes psychoeducation, empathy, insight inquiry, nervous system regulation, attachment theory, brain rewiring tools, and cognitive behavioral work. 

  • Do Conscious Girlfriend coaches work with couples as well as single women? 

    Yes, although working with couples generally requires additional training due to its complexity. 

  • Can I take the Conscious Girlfriend coach training if I'm not a certified coach or therapist?

    Yes. However, if you wish to become certified, you must also have or obtain additional certification or licensure in coaching, counseling or therapy. 

  •  I identify as heterosexual and/or male. Can I still be a Conscious Girlfriend coach?

    At this time, the Conscious Girlfriend Coach Certification Program is for self-identified female or non-binary participants who identify somewhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. 

Meet Your Mentor

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

  • Founder and director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, Ruth is the author of eight books, including the Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love: A Roadmap To Finding the Right Partner & Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams.
  • Ruth is also a certified Somatica Method Sex & Intimacy Coach, and trained with Gay & Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving. 
  • Ruth has taught at Mills College, California State University Fresno, Ashland University, and five other colleges and universities.
  • A proud member of the LGBTQ community since 1982, Ruth has extensive personal experience with both the joys and challenges of lesbian dating and relationships, and teaches from both her professional and personal experience.
  • Students say Ruth's teaching style is accessible, compassionate, rigorous and empowering. 

Coach Training Program Details and Fees

Tuition includes 6 months of Supporting-Level Academy membership ($1097 value.)

If you are already a Supporting Member, please email us here 

to get your pro-rated discount. Admission is by application only. 

Yes, I Want To Apply For Coach Training!

FULL PAY

$1895 full pay

I've Applied And Been Accepted And Want To Full Pay

TWO PAYMENTS

$950 

(One payment now, one payment in 2 months)

I've Applied And Been Accepted And Want To Split My Payment In Two

6 MONTHS

$350/mo

I've Applied And Been Accepted And Want The 6-Month Payment Plan

12 MONTHS

$200/mo

I've Applied And Been Accepted And Want The 12-Month Plan

Additional Optional Fees (Paid Later, As Desired)

Certification Exam: $500

Includes a private meeting and two practice sessions reviewed and/or supervised by Conscious Girlfriend Academy Director Ruth Schwartz
Optional Listing on Conscious Girlfriend Website: $500/year for unlimited referrals

Website listing includes free required annual Continuing Education Day.

Annual Conscious Girlfriend Coach Continuing Education Day: Free to all coaches listed on the CG website; $250 for other Coaching Program graduates

Questions? Please read through this page, watch the video,

and then email us.  

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