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The Intelligent, Compassionate Learning Community For Lesbians++ 

We warmly welcome all self-identified women and adjacent non-binary people.  

Coming Out means coming home to freedom and to your authentic self. 

Lesbian, queer, bisexual, sexually fluid, or questioning? Over 35, over 40, 50, 60, 70 or beyond? You belong here! Our lesbian++ community is here to welcome you with open arms as you discover yourself. 

 

I'm Ruth, the director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, here to share my own coming out journey.

You'll also meet my cat, Mr. Yellow, who makes a surprise appearance in the video :)

 

Does This Sound Like You?

You've lived for decades in the straight world, maybe even married with kids. Your family, your friends, and the whole world know you as heterosexual, but you realize now that there's more to you than that. 

 

You're no longer able to deny your desire for women. It's  exhilarating, terrifying, disorienting, overwhelming. The life you've built is no longer right. Yet everything finally makes sense. 

 

But what comes next, and how do you navigate it? 

 

Welcome To Your New Life

Coming out is a journey, and coming out later in life can be even more complicated. It's much easier when you do it with mentorship and community! 

 

We offer a six-week recorded class, Coming Out & Coming Home: Lesbian Life 101 led by a certified Conscious Girlfriend coach who came (back) out in her 50s, after over two decades married to a man and raising children. The recorded class is free as part of your Deep Dive Member benefits when you join the Conscious Girlfriend Academy. 

 

Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s or 70s, married or single, a parent, grandparent or childless, you belong here. We understand, accept and honor you as you are, and we also help you grow.    

 

We're here to help you know yourself more fully, live the life that's truly yours, help you meet like-minded others, and support you on the road to happiness. 

Why Get Support From Us? 

 

The Conscious Girlfriend Academy is the leading global resource helping lesbians++ date wisely and love well. Here, you'll meet many other women in the coming out process, and many longtime lesbians who welcome you.

Choose The Future You Want     

  • Imagine feeling this way:

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  • You're at home in your body and at peace with your authentic self and desire. However you define yourself (or don't!), you're connected to people who love and support you as you are.   

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  • You're either ready to date, or ready to get ready, in your own right timing. You know the right woman will be out there when you do. 

        You're filled with the calm confidence and joy of               living a life congruent with your true self. 

 

This is what the Coming Out & Coming Home class, along with Conscious Girlfriend's other resources, will make possible for you. Your time is now!

Topics Covered Include:

-- Why female sexuality is often fluid, and why more women are coming out now than ever before.

-- How to recognize and heal your own internalized homophobia and shame.

-- Why falling in love is the catalyst that leads many women to come out, and how to heal from your first lesbian breakup, if you've had one.   

 -- How to understand the lesbian community, find your place within it, and get connected. 

-- How, whether, when and what to tell people. 

-- Why dating women can be very, very different from dating men, and what you need to know.

-- Lesbian S E X: gain confidence and comfort! 

Meet The Leaders

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. 

Lead teacher Ruth is the Academy director, author of Conscious Lesbian Dating and Love and seven other books, and a geek about all things related to dating, love and attachment. 

Lisa Madsen, L.C.S.W.

Support Group Leader Lisa is a certified Conscious Girlfriend coach and life coach, as well as a psychotherapist of 25+ years. She came out after 20+ years of heterosexual marriage and two children. 

About Conscious Girlfriend Academy  

Ruth co-authored the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love in 2015, and since then, it has spawned a movement! Since then, women and adjacent non-binary people from 25 countries have taken our classes, though a majority of participants are in the United States or Canada. 

 

The Academy culture is compassionate, intelligent and welcoming. Many women come for the life-changing lesbian-centric content, and stay for the loving community. We often hear, "I've never felt this safe anywhere else," and "My straight friends are jealous about everything I'm getting to learn!"         

Frequently Asked Questions 

How old will most class members be?

Our class participants have ranged in age from old souls in their 20s to youthful spirits in their 80s. Most Conscious Girlfriend Academy participants are 45 and up. It's definitely never too early or too late to come out and come home.

 

All classes are recorded, so you can watch them later. Support groups are not recorded, so you've gotta be there live! 

What Our Class Members Say

Quotes are real; names and photos have been changed for confidentiality.

MARTY

I found this class to be transformative.  Can’t think of a better word to describe what I have experienced. I am definitely not the same woman who signed up for this two months ago! I feel such a blossoming, expanding, and emerging spirit now that I never would have thought I could ever feel about myself. 

ANDI

The Academy represents hope to me of a kind I was really giving up on... Who has a new or empowered life in their late 70s or above?? I want you to know how very special you and these classes feel to me, as I feel the possibility that I could have love and movement, and shared energy and pleasure in my life. 

ANNA 

 

The program was amazing!  It really helped me to own my sexual identity and feel less self-conscious and embarrassed about coming out in my fifties. It was refreshing and comforting to meet others in the same boat.  The ladies in the Academy are wonderful… many possibilities to make friends. Thank you so much for supporting me on this journey.  I will definitely recommend it to others.

MELANIE 

 

I found the quality of women in the class to be very high, and the laughter, vulnerability, curiosity and wisdom were all deeply appreciated.  I learned so much, but know there’s more to process and take in so I am very much looking forward to taking this course again. Another great benefit is that I made a couple of friends -- what a bonus! I’ve been connecting with one of them every week.  

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Get the Coming Out & Coming Home 6-Week Recorded Class For FREE When You Become A Deep Dive Member of the Academy 

Because Your Heart is Worth It. 

 

Q: Why purchase a year-long Academy membership instead of just the the Coming Out & Coming Home class and support group?  

 

A: Because if you're ready for the love life you want, or ready to get ready, a year-long Conscious Girlfriend Academy membership is a screaming good deal. Becoming an annual member will give you 10 additional months of live support, plus access to our vast archives of recorded classes on lesbian dating, love and sexuality, at a big discount. (Deep Dive Membership is also available by the month.)  

 

Is The Academy Right For You?

 

You're smart, thoughtful, and you've likely done some other 

healing, therapy, 12-step, meditation, or other spiritual work.

You know that the life -- and the love life -- you want

are worth working for. 

You want to take charge of your relationship destiny,

rather than leaving love up to chance, fate or luck.

You know that mentorship and community support

will help you get to the life and love you want.   

 

Intimate relationships are the final frontier. 

Learn how to do them right. 

 

The Conscious Girlfriend Academy exists to support

women who value growth, and are willing to take action

to learn how to be the right partner, as well as find her.

We look forward to welcoming you into our community.

 

We are actively anti-racist and warmly welcome all self-identified women

and adjacent non-binary people who love women, or want to.   

Academy Members Say:

Quotes are real; names and photos have been changed for confidentiality.

ELIZABETH

Thank you for orchestrating this class.  I felt validation, for once, in a long time. I felt clarity, direction, acceptance, and a sense of solace. I now feel ready to address what I have not been ready to confront. I share gratitude to you for making this platform available to all of us to learn from and appreciate and hopefully grow, prosper and expand,...it  feels so meaningful and good right now.  I am grateful. 

SHERRI

The online community that you have created, your listening and paying attention, all fill me up. It is nourishment to my soul. It is amazing to notice this particular change in my spirit! I've felt more confident. I've felt I finally belong. I've felt loved and accepted. I've felt strong. My inner world is thriving. 

DOROTHY 

 

I was nervous coming to the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, as I am an introvert.  However, Ruth and the other leaders create such a welcoming space. I found myself looking forward to the classes and connections.  CGA has helped me become more social and created a willingness in me to make friends in real life.  The work is not just from highly trained professionals, but also connects at the heart level, and inspires me to grow.

 

CAROLYN 

 

I finally came out at 32, am now 44, and thanks to you, I have finally found me. I’m currently on week 3. The Academy has given me a new lease on life. I now know -- I deserve to be happy

I am worthy 

I am beautiful 

I am lovable as I am.

 


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Our Money Back Guarantee

It's vulnerable to sign up for a class like this, so we want to make it easy for you. Here's how the money back guarantee works. 

 

1. Attend all six sessions live, or watch the recordings afterward, and take notes in each class.

 

2. If you feel you didn't get what you came for, just send us your notes on the classes along with suggestions on how we can improve, and we'll gladly refund 100% of what you paid.  

 

You've got nothing to lose, and a joyful new life to gain.  

Please note: this guarantee covers the Coming Out & Coming Home class only.    

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