• Members come from throughout the United States, as well as Canada, Europe, Mexico, Israel and elsewhere.
• Members range in age from their 20s through their 80s. A majority are over 40.
• Some members are actively dating, or getting ready to date. Others aren't sure whether or not they want a romantic relationship, but want more community and more skills. The Academy learning supports friendships and other non-romantic relationships, too. 
• Many of our members have done a lot of personal growth work already; all are highly motivated to learn conscious lesbian dating and love skills.
• Some members are newly coming out; others have been out for decades, and everything in between.
• We are a warmly welcoming, intelligent and compassionate community for all self-identified women (and adjacent non-binary people) who love women, or want to! 

If you're like many of our members, you have a deep longing for a healthy, loving, trust-filled, supportive and passionate relationship, yet you're not sure how to find the right partner.

In Academy classes you'll learn how to create a vision for your ideal relationship -- and build the skills to co-create your half of it. You'll learn how to date with clarity and confidence, how to recognize real compatibility (and not get fooled by chemistry or limerence, the "honeymoon stage"), how to communicate in ways that build emotional intimacy, and how to have a fulfilling sex life, whatever that means for you.

Joining the Academy is like getting a gym membership for your romantic life! It gives you the community support and consistent education and practice you need, to become able to have the love life you want.

And just like a gym membership, your best benefits will come through consistency. Many members continue to attend even once they are in relationships, because they find the Academy supports their love lives then, too.

Yes! We sell all of our four-week classes a la carte. We also offer the option for you to add on a month of membership when you buy a class a la carte, so you can check it out. But honestly, the most transformation happens for those who sign up to join us for a year, and we offer deep discounts and additional perks for yearly members.

The Academy exists to help you gain and integrate the knowledge and skills to change your love life forever. That's an incredibly important and achievable goal, but it usually takes more than just watching a few classes to make it happen. It takes ongoing mentorship, support and practice -- and that's what you'll get by becoming a member.

We recommend joining the Academy for a year because:

1) You get a big discount doing it that way.

2) Paying up front will motivate you to come to as many classes as you actually need, without having to second-guess yourself about each one. The per-class cost is incredibly low when you sign up for a year -- just like at a gym.

3) Getting to know other members will be a big help in creating the love life you actually want. It's hard to do alone, and much easier when you're connected to like-minded women on similar journeys. As an added bonus, many Academy members form deep friendships. And yes, a few have fallen in love :)

Some people have described the Academy as being "like therapy on steroids." While one-on-work work can be very valuable, it's entirely different to be in a group of like-minded women and non-binary people facing similar challenges. We hear over and over, "It helps so much to know I'm not alone." Plus, hearing other members describe your patterns -- or your partner's or ex's patterns -- brings whole new levels of insight.

There are tons of personal growth, dating and relationship healing programs out there, but almost none of them address the unique needs of lesbians and adjacent queer people. We are just like everyone else, but we are also different. Lesbians++ face particular challenges and opportunities in dating and love that are, quite frankly, very different from those faced by heterosexual people or gay men. The Academy is a unique international feel-tank and think-tank offering evidence-based tools... for us.

If you've done a lot of growth work already, you'll be right at home. Many of our members have done therapy, 12-step work, Landmark, and/or other types of spiritual and healing work. (Quite a few of our members are therapists, coaches, or healers themselves.) Other Academy members are newer to the personal growth journey. But all tend to share the motivation to get out of pain, and become able to have the dating and love lives they deeply want.

The other unique gift of the Academy is that in our weekly Skills Labs, you don't just get to learn, you get to actually practice what you learn. Role plays, anyone? Practice asking someone out... saying No... asking for what you want... sharing feelings in healthy ways... working with your own triggers... and much more, in supportive, compassionate, lesbian/queer community.  

Yes! We've got Conscious Girlfriend Certified Coaches! Check them out here. CGA coaches have received the world's best training in the particular challenges of lesbian coming out, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships, lesbian attachment, lesbian sex and lesbian breakups -- and their support is very powerful. We absolutely recommend you work with one of them if you can, to accelerate your journey. 

However, unless your money and time are unlimited, we strongly encourage you to join the Academy too. Our classes cover life-changing information in a more budget-friendly way, and give you the benefit of getting to actually hear from like-minded women++, develop community and practice skills, as well as get group coaching. 

ome people think our prices are high because they have never seen a program like ours before (because, to our knowledge, one has never existed!) So it's hard to know exactly what to compare it to.

Other people think our prices are astonishingly low for what we offer:

• Basic Membership includes 36 live classes, 52 coach-led skills labs, and access to 40+ videos in the world's biggest lesbian dating, love and sexuality on-demand class library. 
• Deep-Dive Membership includes 40+ additional on-demand classes, plus 36 live group coaching sessions with Academy Director Ruth Schwartz. 

It's far cheaper than individual therapy (though not a replacement for it.) It's also far cheaper than most breakups, much less most divorces. And, it's hard to put a price on $$ saved through lack of heartbreak.

Still, we know that some people who want this learning and support simply can't afford it. That's why we also offer many resources completely free.  

Yes! We've offered a huge amount of scholarship aid during our first four years of existence. Here is our scholarship policy as of May 1:

BIPOC (lesbians and queer people who have lived experience as Black, Indigenous or People of Color, including Asian or Latinx), can get up to 75% off on our coach training programs, Basic and Deep-Dive Memberships.  To apply, just write us at [email protected].

We are also glad to provide scholarship assistance to non-BIPOC people. To apply, please do the following:

1. First, please go through our free resources on this page, and take notes in whatever way works for you, so you can really integrate the learning. 
2. Then, please send us a letter, video or audio file with those notes. We want to know what you've learned from our free resources! And, also please let us know what assistance you'd need to make our Basic Membership affordable for you.
3. We also ask that you consider what other forms of energy exchange you could offer us. If you have a special skill you could offer us on a volunteer basis, let us know! Or, could you promote the Academy to potential paying members? Can you talk with your local LGBTQ center about our work? Do you have social media accounts on which you could share information about us?

Once we see that you are motivated and sincere, we'll gladly work with you to get you into our programs.