Lesbian Attachment & Communication
A Conscious Girlfriend Intensive
Five Saturdays:
May 2, 9, 16, 23 & 30
"This class should be required for all lesbians." -- Past participant
This 5-part experiential intensive, not offered since 2024, is a heart saver! Join us to learn how
to understand, heal from and prevent the leading cause of lesbian fights, breakups and pain.
Do You Recognize Any Of These Crazy-Making Situations?
"She went from saying 'This is the love of a lifetime,' to saying she wasn't ready for a relationship a week later."
"I feel pressured by how much my GF needs me. I don't want to be her whole world."
"I just want daily contact and a quick response to my texts -- why is that so hard?"
"I don't want to have to fight for alone time. I love her, but I can't give her what she needs."
"We booked a romantic vacation, and when we got there she said didn't want me any more."
"We keep breaking up and then she reaches out again, and I just can't let go."
"When my GF travels for work, I panic. I can hardly sleep or eat. What's wrong with me?"
"My GF is insisting I stop seeing my friends and break off contact with my exes."
"When I start getting close to someone, I'm always afraid I'm going to fuck it up."
"If someone is too into me, I feel smothered, but if she's unavailable, I get obsessed."
"I don't know why, but sometimes I just fall 'out of love' really fast."
The Surprising Truth:
Attachment wounding explains ALL of this.
Attachment is your brain's unconscious blueprint for bonding and connection. No one chooses to be "anxious," "avoidant" or "disorganized," attachment-wise -- but the closer a relationship gets, the more most of us fall into those painful states.
These reactions are programmed into your nervous system -- and hers -- from experiences so early you probably don't even remember them. Yet your attachment wounds affect all of your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and outcomes in love, and they play out even more intensely in lesbian relationships.
Here's the kicker. Your attachment style also impacts who you're attracted to. Most of us feel the most chemistry and fall in love the hardest when our attachment systems are strongly opposed. This explains a lot about why the most intense, blissful connections end up shattering us.
Plus, once your attachment wounds take hold, you're almost doomed to do and say things that make it worse. Even (or especially!) when you really love someone, the attachment gremlins mess it up.
But, here's the good news. Both your attachment blueprint and your painful relationship patterns ("gremlins") are changeable. This course will teach you how.
In just five weeks, you'll learn how to:
Recognize and re-script the hidden repetition compulsion patterns in your attractions, so you can stop getting hooked on the wrong women.
Understand how attachment wounds are damaging your relationships, and how to interrupt the cycle to get back to connection.
When you lean anxious: use these magic phrases to communicate in ways that bring her closer, rather than making her defensive or pushing her away.
When you lean avoidant: use these magic phrases to help your GF calm down and feel connected, so you can take the space you need without having to shut down or break up.
No matter which way you lean: The key steps to take to cultivate secure attachment inside yourself, so you can have greater peace and well-being whether you're single or coupled.
Whether you're single, in a relationship but taking the class on your own,
or taking it as a couple, this class will give you a path forward.
Conscious Girlfriend Academy members come free!
Non-Members: Choose your option below.
The Intensive meets on five Saturdays, May 2, 9, 16, 23 & 30, from 10 a.m.-12 p.m. Pacific Time.
Deep Dive Group Coaching takes place right after class, 12:15-1:30 p.m. Pacific Time.
Hear From Past Participants
Names and images have been changed to protect confidentiality.
Although I wasn’t able to join live, I listened to all the classes, and realized that Anxious Attachment had my name all over it plus some Avoidant Attachment, too. My girlfriend is the same way. We had broken up, but now, talking it through, we see that we were both sabotaging. These conversations have brought us so close, we decided to start fresh, and now we are back and then some! We are both so happy and excited, and taking our time getting to know each other, talking and communicating like never before. My heart is full! I can’t thank you enough!! – Kelly and Nancy
There are not even enough words to describe the impact of the attachment healing class… During and after the classes I dove deeper into really “getting” how many of my past decisions, needs and desires were shaped by attachment pulls. I feel grateful that I now have this added insight about myself. I would definitely take part in any ongoing offerings on attachment issues….Thank you for your 1000% commitment to bringing what you know in a way that is easy to take in and digest and resonate with. I am so grateful to belong to the CGA village. – Marge
Thank you so much for the wisdom that I have needed to hear for decades. I am full of gratitude for finding CGA and feeling your amazing compassion. Please include me in your growing process, as the attachment topic evolves into the next level. - LM
I am so very grateful for you, and your course. It not only helped me tremendously, but I shared what I was learning with a good friend who was in the middle of her own anxious state and about to chase/request more from her gf who was in an avoidant state... and she really understood the dynamic and how she was about to reinforce it. I also shared your SCORE process from your book which helped so much. My friend felt so empowered and liberated... and we were both so excited to be able to better navigate and choose what to do, with our deeper understanding of ourselves and the other. So thanks again so much for teaching so beautifully and accessibly. Really incredible work you are doing for our lesbian communities. - J
What To Do
If You Know Your Lesbian Love Life
Needs Some Attachment Healing.
Ask yourself:
How serious am I about this?
How committed am I to understanding my patterns
and creating profound new vistas
of possibility and love?
Am I ready to stop the blame game,
and take responsibility for my part in whatever
"Demon Dialogue" or "Protest Polka" I co-created?
Credit goes to Sue Johnson for these names.
Am I ready to empower myself, heal, and break the cycle?
If the answer is, "I'm committed. I'm scared, hurt, sometimes despairing, but/and ready to find a new way..."
Great! This is your path forward.
F R E E B O N U S
When you sign up, you'll also get access to one of our most popular 2-hour classes ever.
Lesbian Narcissists, Empaths & Unavailable Women (And Lesbian Attachment Healing)
Here's what this class covers:
1) The biggest mistakes you're probably making that end up breaking your heart
2) The reason why painful shut-downs and lack of empathy happen, even when you're not with a narcissist,
3) What "narcissism" really means, and the difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism,
4) How "empaths" get created, and why we fit lock and key with people who have narcissistic traits,
6) The two different kinds of unavailable women,
7) The five reasons why so many of us get extra-attracted to unavailability, and what to do about it, and
8) Why everything makes sense when viewed through an attachment lens, and knowing how to work with attachment states can transform your love life. 🖤
Learn how to go from this...
To THis.
Your Heart Deserves This class.
WANT PERSONALIZED GUIDANCE?
Book a free chat with Jen.
Get a half hour on the phone with our Outreach Director, Jen Solin, to learn how the Academy can support your lesbian love journey.
