OK, let's face it: there are many attractive, charming, hot women who are not available. Maybe she's straight, or she's in a relationship, or she's just not ready. Maybe she even thinks she's ready but when it starts getting real, she's ambivalent or scared. Or, shudder, maybe she's just not that into you. 

But why do you get hooked?

Why do so many of us have a mechanism that leads us to find someone extra attractive and compelling, when she's not available? (And, let's face it, to be less interested or actually turned off when someone is available and interested?)

And why is it so extra hard to let go, even once it's clear she's not available? Why do you feel so tempted to just "wait in her waiting room" or hold on?

The answers in might surprise you. And, rather than being mad at yourself or trying to force yourself to STOP, to change, to feel something you don't feel -- or, to stop feeling something you do feel -- there is an alternative. 

Definitely check out the Lesbian Dating Essentials class to learn how to break this and other painful patterns, and rewire your brain toward the love you want.