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The Book That Started A Movement
Are You A Single Lesbian Who Wants Lasting Love?
If so, this book was written for you. You'll learn exactly why and how the conscious approach to dating and love will make all the difference for you, and get a detailed roadmap to help you find and create the relationship you most want -- even if you've had a hard time creating that kind of love in the past, and wondered if it was impossible for you.
Drawing from neuroscience, psychology and spirituality, this book will help you take charge of your relationship destiny, no matter how many heartbreaks or disappointments you’ve had in the past.
An Amazon Bestseller in LGBTQ Books Since 2015!
And The Person Behind It
Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.
You love women.
You're smart, compassionate, and willing to grow.
. You want lasting happiness in love, and it's been hard to find.
Maybe you've even been tempted to give up hope.
It's not your fault. They don't teach this stuff in school.
But you can learn it now.
The Academy is here to support you.
Learn why lesbian love can be the best on the planet -- but also the most painful, if you don't have the skills we're here to help you learn.
More About What We Offer
Coaching Package With CGA Director Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.
I haven't taken on new coaching clients in years -- but I've just decided to offer a very small number of 10-hour coaching packages. (When they're gone, they're gone!) So if you've read my book, watched my classes, and feel that I'm the person to help you make the BIG changes you're ready to make in your dating, love or sex life, or life in general, I am here for you!
Learn About Our Lesbian Sex Classes
The Academy offers the most frank, empowering lesbian sex classes you'll find anywhere! Learn how to understand and embrace your erotic self, communicate better in the bedroom, practice lesbian sacred sexuality, get comfortable with your body, become a great lover to yourself and others, and much more.
Let's get real: we all need help changing our patterns and building the skills we need for the love lives we want. That's where the Academy comes in. Our classes, group coaching and community will show you what you've been doing wrong, and how to do it right -- including clear, confident dating at any age, and creating a relationship that truly meets your needs. Becoming a member lets you access our resources for a flat monthly or yearly fee. It's like joining a gym for your heart, mind and soul!
Get 1:1 Coaching From CGA Coaches
The Academy offers the most in-depth training on LGBTQ coming out, dating, relationships and breakups anywhere -- and most of our coaches also have many additional qualifications. Coaching is not included with your Academy membership, but it's a highly encouraged addition, if you want to grow and change fast!
A personal message from Ruth
Romantic love has been my biggest source of joy, and my biggest source of pain, on this earth. These words by the brilliant Black feminist writer bell hooks, from her book All About Love, explain why.
When angels speak of love they tell us it is only by loving that we enter an earthly paradise. They tell us paradise is our home and love our true destiny… It is the most militant, most radical intervention anyone can make to not only speak of love, but to engage in the practice of love.
Love heals. No matter what has happened in your past, when you open your heart to love, you can live as if born again, not forgetting the past but seeing it in a new way, letting it live inside you in a new way… This is the way healing happens.
If romantic and sexual love are deeply important to you, too, we are kindred spirits. Although I have many professional credentials, my work is also my life, and my life is my work. I've taught at eight universities, but I've been schooled by loving women. I've been out since 1982, and my intimate relationships have been my deepest source of beauty, heartbreak and joy on this earth.
I studied sex coaching for three years after my deeply loving, but largely sexless lesbian marriage ended, because I needed to understand what had happened. I'm very proud to offer Lesbian Bed Life classes that offer frank, compassionate, empowering sex ed you won't find elsewhere. But I'd also love to support you one-on-one, or with your partner, because breakthroughs are available.
Lack of sex destroys marriages -- I learned that one the hard way. My spouse and I sought help, but we couldn't find it. It doesn't have to be that way.
Another thing that destroys relationships is attachment style differences, when you don't know how to work with them. This, too, can be changed! I love teaching about attachment, but again, if it's possible for you, coaching will help you faster.
At $4097, my 10-hour coaching package isn't cheap, but it includes a one-year Supporting Academy membership valued at $1097 (an unbelievable level of value for the massive number of classes and amount of support that will let you access.) If you're ready to make big changes, I'd love to walk with you.
Books by Ruth L. Schwartz
If you're a single lesbian who wants deeply fulfilling lasting love - or feels doubtful about ever being able to find that kind of love - this book was written for you. You'll learn exactly why and how the conscious approach to dating and love will make all the difference for you, and also get a detailed roadmap to help you find and create the relationship you most want. Great relationships don’t happen by accident, luck or magic. Instead, they’re a direct result of the choices you make, and the actions you take. Drawing from neuroscience, psychology and spirituality, this book will help you take charge of your relationship destiny, no matter how many heartbreaks or disappointments you’ve had in the past.
Reviewers say, "The best book written in the last 20 years!" "This book has been a real friend to me lately." This unique and comprehensive guide book will help you connect with wise, compassionate inner guidance, understand the deeper purpose of your life’s challenges, transform destructive patterns and old wounds, embody your soul’s unique blueprint, and create a joyful, evolutionary life. Drawing on shamanism, psychology, neuroscience, energetic and somatic healing, Buddhism, 12-step recovery and other sources, this book contains the tools and understandings you need in order to change, heal and love your human life.
“One chilly blue morning in May, a surgeon angled a six-inch cut along my side, then reached in and removed my healthy right kidney. Four hours later, he spliced that kidney into my partner Ana’s thigh, and her ‘death in reverse’ began.”
A medical drama, a memoir, and a love story all in one, Death in Reverse chronicles Ruth Schwartz’s life with her partner, Ana, during the tumultuous twelve months following transplant surgery.
Anyone who has ever dealt with a major health problem—or cared for a sick partner—will identify with this portrait of a couple struggling to maintain emotional and sexual intimacy while confronting the myriad challenges of chronic illness and disability.
As in her previous collections, Miraculum shows Schwartz's true ability as a poet. These poems are passionate, tender, tough, and brimming with life.
"Ruth L. Schwartz will settle for nothing less than the essential. Her passionate poems are alive to the vulnerability of the body, the daily possibility of joy, and the deep struggle not only to make sense of, but to affirm a world where the terrorists 'opened fire: / as if it were a box, now cracked, / consuming its own lid and hinges, / sparking out, unstoppable, / into the tender, / flammable world. . . "'
- Mark Doty
Winner of the 2004 Autumn House Poetry Prize selected by Alicia Ostriker. Schwartz's Dear Good Naked Morning explores what it is to be a woman in love with the world.
"In Edgewater, her powerfully moving and redemptive third collection, Ruth L. Schwartz writes with consummate passion, precision, and honesty of the raw hungers that give rise to the world, human and natural. In poems both lyrical and grit-laced, she grapples with her twofold, central question: How can we love fully, open-eyed and openhearted amid all the flaws and beauty, each other and the world? How could we not? "
- Jane Hirshfield
Poetry. In SINGULAR BODIES, Ruth L. Schwartz, winner of the 2000 Anhinga Prize for Poetry, explores the theme of the body and its transformations-through eros, illness, disability and death. Informed and inspired by ten years of AIDS and cancer education, Schwartz offers a "numinous, deep-hearted collection [that] explores the redemptive quality of love-and it's ability to hold even the hardest facts of physical life.in its enormous arms"-Alison Luterman.
Accordion Breathing and Dancing (Poetry)