A dear friend recently told me about a second date she had this week. The woman sitting across from her was smart, accomplished, witty, interesting and attractive. My friend was having a good time. But when she asked, "So, what brought you to the dating app?" her date flinched. It looked like she had never even thought about that question. 

"Um, I don't know, I've got more time on my hands, and I've still got a healthy libido." She laughed nervously, then changed the subject.

I feel such compassion for that poor frozen deer-in-dating-headlights. She's all grown up in sooo many ways, but her beautiful lesbian or queer inner dater hasn't gotten an update in forever. She's still running version 1972 or 1982 or 1992 instead of 2025.

She desperately needs a restart, reboot, some new files installed -- and without that, she stands almost no chance at all of creating a love life that does her justice, that can give her what she wants and deserves -- because she doesn't even know what that is, or how to talk about it, much less how to move confidently toward it.

And she also stands no chance of continuing to date my friend, an incredibly thoughtful person who has come to Conscious Girlfriend Academy and gotten a whole lot of new dating and love software installed.

But, dear Ms. Deer will most likely find someone who gets drawn in by all her many fine qualities -- and who maybe even won't ask her any tough questions, and who also hasn't thought about those questions herself. 

Then, there they'll be: two attractive, smart, witty people with vulnerable hearts and high hopes and sooooo many barriers to happiness in their way. But they won't even know it. They'll just feel a spark and dive in. 

And then, what will those two create?

What are the odds that they will co-create a mutually satisfying, healthy, happy-making, sustaining and sustainable relationship?

As a lesbian/queer dating expert, I'd have to say sadly: About as high as the odds that you'll go down to the corner store, buy a lottery ticket, and win millions.

It could happen. But it's not likely, to say the least.

So what would it be like to get support to be able to think clearly and deeply about questions like what you actually want in your next dating and love experience...and become able to answer with confidence and clarity? 

To be able to truly understand yourself as a dater, and as a lover... to be able to be at peace with whatever happened in your past, understand how you co-created it, and know for sure that you can create something different this time around? 

That's exactly what our Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian/Queer Dating & Love will help you do.