It's human nature: if she gives you mixed messages, runs hot and cold, expresses ambivalence or pulls away and then comes back, you're like to believe the positive messages, and disregard the others.

We talk a lot about how to recognize and respond to red flags when dating. You know, those little things you see but would rather not see, that give you cause of concern...before you tell yourself, "Damn, she looks good in red!" or "Well, nobody's perfect, who am I to judge?," and bury your head in the sand.

I often hear women talking themselves (or others) into "just getting back out there." But is that really a good idea?

Honestly, because I have always found butches the hottest people on the planet, it took me a long time to understand how much shit they go through.

If you've wondered this, I get it. I've been there. Lesbians and queer women love and bond hard, and then our bonds often get messed up by triggers. But the love is still there.

I was teaching at a writer's conference when I spotted a woman who took my breath away. It was the fantasy kind of chemistry so many of us dream about. Her name was Kim, and she told me later she'd had that same feeling when she saw my face on the poster advertising the conference.

Why we have so much of it, and how to get to harmony, peace and ease in lesbian love

OK, let's face it: there are many attractive, charming, hot women who are not available. Maybe she's straight, or she's in a relationship, or she's just not ready. Maybe she even thinks she's ready... 

Jenny was lonely. She'd been through a bad breakup and was crying a lot, trying to keep herself from texting her ex, when a friend encouraged her to join a lesbian Facebook group... 

If you’re watching The Ultimatum: Queer Love on Netflix and feeling unsettled, you’re not alone. The show has sparked fascination, heartbreak, and a lot of lesbian drama. And also an ache...

Lesbian love bombing: a personal and community wake-up call: who does it, why it happens, and how to keep your heart safe. See, it's not just "those" women who love-bomb. It can be any of us. 

Dating over 40 as a lesbian or queer woman can be both empowering and overwhelming. Maybe you're newly out, re-entering the dating world after a breakup, or just tired of feeling invisible on apps...

There’s something uniquely thrilling about stepping outside your everyday life and setting off on an adventure with other women who get you. And for many older lesbians, that kind of connection isn’t just a bonus, it’s a lifeline.

Lesbian dating can be exciting, vulnerable, or maybe even awkward. It can be hard to get past the small talk, yet “Where did you grow up?” and “How many siblings do you have?” will never be the stuff of real connection.